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13 Mar 2020

5 Questions Parents Can Ask Their Kids About Coronavirus

By |2020-03-13T08:27:44-07:00March 13th, 2020|Leadership, Parents|4 Comments

With the headlines and news reports regarding COVID-19 or coronavirus, it’s easy for anxiety and fear to set in. Chances are that your students are worried about what’s going on. They have questions and feelings they don’t know how to process 

As you continue to minister to students through technology in the coming days, don’t forget about the parents. Parents probably have questions and feelings that they are processing too, so show grace and love to them as well.  

As the primary faith trainer, parents can leverage the headlines for discipleship and you can set them up with a win. Here are five questions you can give parents to encourage conversations for discipleship. 

  1. Who do we trust?  

We trust the Lord. He is on his throne and no matter what is going on around us we put our trust of Him. He is faithful and true. He is not surprised by any of this and we trust Him. Ask your kids, “Who do we trust?” Hebrews 13:8 “Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever.” No matter what happens in the days ahead, Jesus remains the same.   

  1. Are you afraid of what’s going on? 

Asking this question may get a simple answer of “No” and that’s ok.  Let it pass and do not insight fear into your kids but if they say anything else, have the conversation. Talk about what they are afraid of, what they are hearing and what they think is happening. You don’t have all the answers, sometimes just verbalizing our fears gives us hope that they do not control the situation. John 14:27 says, “Peace I leave with you. My peace I give to you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Don’t let your heart be troubled or fearful.” Jesus is the giver of peace. Help your kids see this peace in the middle of fear.     

  1. What can we do for those affected?  

This is a great opportunity to pray. Pray for those who are sick and for those in the medical field working hard to find a solution to this problem. Pray for a cure, an antidote to the COVID-19. We can also talk about all the families who may have lost a loved one around the world. If you have younger kids, they may not understand this, but for those who are older, this is a great time to talk about grief and the hope we have in Jesus. Psalm 62:5 says, “Rest in God alone, my soul, for my hope comes from Him.” We can rest in our hope.     

  1. What should we do?  

This one is easy, follow the rules that the CDC has told us to follow. Wash your hands, don’t touch your face and sneeze into your arm. What we can do from our homes is pray. Again, this is a great opportunity to teach your kids about prayer and the power of prayer. Prayer is an invitation to go to the Lord on behalf of others, it is also a way to posture our hearts to rely on the Lord. 1 John 5:14 says, “This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us.” We serve a God that not only loves us but he also hears us. Help your kids know that the Lord hears their voice.  

  1. Did you know that Mom/Dad is __________________? 

Use discretion on this conversation. Know your kids and what they can handle. One of the best ways to open lines of communication is to find common ground. Chances are, you have questions and feelings about what is going on. Open up with your kids, things like “Did you know that dad is worried about the stock market?” Honestly, I am worried about the financial ramifications of all of this, so I can share my thoughts and feelings. This may not apply to every kid, but letting your guard down lets your kids know they are not alone. On this one, we can point our kids back to the first question, who do we trust?  

Who do we trust?   

May this be our mantra throughout the coming weeks. May we rest and know that Jesus is king and help our kids see years from now that in the middle of this, mom and dad trusted in Jesus. 

Bobby is a Discipleship Pastor in Katy, TX. He loves pouring into the next generation and their parents to build lifelong followers of Jesus.

He loves his wife and three blue-eyed kids, great BBQ and the outdoors.

12 Mar 2020

Church Vs ________

By |2020-03-11T08:28:44-07:00March 12th, 2020|Leadership|0 Comments

It seems like I’m receiving more and more messages these days from students and parents letting me know that they won’t be at church. The reasons they give me are sports or band or theater or after-school jobs. I don’t know about you, but when I was growing up, Sundays and Wednesdays were sacred. Even for those of us who went to public school, our games and performances were rarely scheduled on Sundays, and our practices always ended early on Wednesdays so we could get to church. But today my weekly programs for students are in direct competition with everything else in their lives, and it feels like the church is becoming the underdog.

I’ve always made it a point to never make students feel guilty about missing church because of one of their extra-curricular activities, and I spend a ton of time each year in bleachers and auditoriums cheering them on, but I’m afraid I haven’t done a strong enough job of communicating to students and parents how important it is that they make church a top priority in their lives.

We see quite clearly how teenagers change physically from ages 13 to 18, but studies show that they also experience a huge growth pattern in both intellectual and emotional development during this time. This means that their ability to comprehend the complexities of the Gospel and connect intimately with Christ is developing and deepening throughout these years, so consistent involvement in student ministry programs that disciple students are integral in shaping their spiritual maturity.

I like to compare it to driving a car. The 7th graders who join our student ministry each year are not legally allowed to drive (Praise God!). But over the course of the next six years, they get a permit, practice with their parents, take Driver’s Ed, and eventually get a license that has limitations… but by the time they graduate, students are behind the wheel without restrictions. In much the same way, when students graduate they are behind the wheel of their own faith. In order to be ready for that, they need to take steps along the way just like they did with driving, and our student ministry is designed to help them grow and take ownership of their faith more and more each year.

I recently discussed the issue of priorities with the parents of a student at our church who is a year-round varsity athlete at a large public school in our area. He rarely misses a Sunday or Wednesday night activity at church, and he often goes to great lengths to get there despite a demanding practice schedule. I’d like to think that my teaching is so engaging that he just can’t stand to miss it, but I suspect something else may be going on. Sure enough, his parents told me that they made a family rule that church was going to be a priority. They encourage their kids to be involved in sports and other extra-curricular activities, but they don’t allow those things to take precedence over church.

“We don’t ask ourselves or our kids if we are going,” they told me. “We just assume we are. We tell the kids that we don’t ask, ‘Am I going to first period English today?’ nor do we ask, ‘Am I going to church?’ We just do it, in the desperate hope that our kids will learn to love literature (in the case of English) and Jesus (in the case of church).”

I think what you have there are two parents who understand that discipleship and spiritual growth are a lifelong journey, and they’ve made decisions that push gently against culture in order to give their children an opportunity to grow closer to Christ. There is nothing wrong with sports or band or theater or after-school jobs. In fact, these are all good things that teach students valuable life lessons and encourage them to practice commitment. I participated in all of these things when I was a teenager, and I think I’m better off as an adult because if it. But as pastors and student ministry leaders, we must encourage students and parents alike to understand that being a follower of Christ is not something that is completed the day we pray that prayer or get baptized. That’s only the beginning of what Hebrews 12 calls an endurance race, and consistent involvement in the local church is an important rhythm for all of us to develop as we run with Christ.

So you’ll continue to find me cheering on my students in the bleachers and auditoriums throughout the week, but on Sundays and Wednesdays I’ll be at church with my running shoes on, and I hope they’ll be there too.

Hey, I’m Tim! In the DYM world, I’m probably best known as “the Crowd Charades guy,” and I love it whenever someone shows me a photo of their students playing that game! DYM helped me get through my first few years of youth ministry, and I hope that my resources can be that for other youth workers. More than anything, I love the community I’ve found through DYM.

I live in Nashville, Tennessee with my amazing wife, Becca. She’s a Dove Award-winning graphic designer who helps keep my DYM content looking fresh! We love to travel, listen to music, and eat good pizza that’s way too fancy for a lock-in.

I’d love to hear from you… please say hello on Twitter or Instagram: @timwildsmith

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11 Mar 2020

Spring Slump is the Best Time of Year!

By |2020-03-12T07:18:43-07:00March 11th, 2020|Leadership|0 Comments

Who here loves a good Spring Slump?

Listen, by now you are probably experiencing the dreaded spring slump.  Low numbers due to spring sports, nice weather, school work, and general family fatigue.  I have experienced this myself and, while I sympathize, I challenge you to re-think this time of year and use it to the advantage of your ministry.  

Rather than painstakingly plan for Sundays or Wednesdays only to be disappointed when a handful of (or no!) kids show up, accept the reality and plan for it.  Buy some games and programming from DYM, hand off the planning to an intern or some volunteers who really need to be leading, and GET OUT OF THE OFFICE!  

You see there is a reason why everyone is out and about, and you should be, too.  Why would students care about your best-laid plans if you don’t really care much about theirs?  This is the season to go to all the things.  Games, matches, meets, recitals, competitions, art shows, assemblies and more.  There is plenty of ministry to be done outside the walls of your church. 

Here are my best tips for making the most of your out and about time this spring.  

  1. Put this in your budget.  Games and tickets can get pricey, so make sure you aren’t spending your own money to go to all these events.  PRO TIP: If you don’t have a budget…many private schools don’t charge for sports or concerts, and most public schools play some private schools on their schedules.  Also, school assemblies can be an easy and free way to see middle school band, orchestra, and chorus all at once, during your regular work hours! 
  2. Make a strategic calendar plan:  I go through each student and write down the two best chances I have to make it to whatever they are into this season.  Call parents and get concert and recital dates now. Line them all up and see…are there games where you can see more than one student at a time?  Or times when games on one campus overlap? PRO TIP: Figure out some tricks that work for you. Is there a school near your house where most schools compete?  My kids went to a K-12 private school, and most of my students from various schools competed against this school. So I picked up my kids, brought them to the game with me (conveniently located right outside their carpool pick up), and was home before bed.  So convenient and easy!
  3. Partner with Parents:  It means as much to parents when you show up as it does to their kids.  And this is a GREAT time to communicate with them. In fact, you can meet and get to know the whole family at an event and it gives you so much more insight into the student’s life.  One parent told me how her kid had never played the sport and was now the captain. I had no idea the kid was that brave and willing to take on hard things! Often parents are so excited you are coming they offer to buy you a ticket to sit with them.  PRO TIP: The best parents will introduce you around to all the parents whose kids are on your roster but you’ve never laid eyes on the family! 
  4. Bring other students and leaders.  Invite the student’s small group leader, confirmation mentor, other staff, and other students.  Once I was at a middle school musical with our choir director, youth handbell director, a confirmation mentor, and a small group leader.  I heard a parent behind me brag to her friend “That whole row is from my church, here to support our kids!” There can be no better advertisement for your church than this!
  5. Get that pic for the ‘Gram.  It seems like bragging, but your Insta tells your story, and your story should include you and your leaders, on-site, at schools, with families, being the church.  Plus, it documents for everyone how you spend your time. People often just don’t know what goes into youth ministry. Maybe they would want to join you if they knew what you do!

I hope these tips inspire you to get out of the office and into the lives of your students this spring!  You might be surprised who shows up to church after you showed up in their lives. Either way, that student and their family will know they matter to their church.  

Ansley has served in youth ministry for two decades and holds a certificate of Youth and Theology from Princeton Theological Seminary. She loves the relational aspect of youth ministry as well as helping equip adults and students to lead. Ansley lives on her family’s beef cattle farm in Virginia with her husband and two young sons (and, sadly, no llamas).

See more from this DYM author here.

5 Feb 2020

Mariners JH Weekend in Review: Volume 5

By |2020-02-04T20:32:04-08:00February 5th, 2020|Games, Leadership, Mariners Youth Ministry, Teaching/Programming, Youth Ministry Hacks, Youth Ministry Ideas, Youth Pastor Life|0 Comments

Weekend Teaching Series: How NOT to Get Grounded (series premiere, week 1 of 4)

Sermon Synopsis: This week I got to speak for the first time in JH this year and it was a total blast! I gave a new talk called “make good choices” and spoke from the book of Proverbs on how we can avoid getting grounded by walking with Jesus each step of the way. I compared the wise to the foolish, and had a few pictures of what wisdom (Chick-Fil-A, catchy tunes) looks like vs foolish (Popeyes, face tattoos). Students seem to respond well to the talk and there was good discussion around tables for the 10m at the end of the service.

Service Length: 61 minutes

Element of Fun/Positive Environment: This week we played DYM’s Super Bowel in honor of the big game happening this past weekend as well as a few rounds of Impossible Shot. Both games absolutely crushed and kids were surprisingly into dietary fiber. We’re going to really expand impossible shot in the future and make it a semi-regular segment as well. This week was SUPER fun, engaging and silly. The students were eating it up!

Music Playlist: Freedom

Volunteer Involvement: We had a few new volunteers this week! We’re pushing hard to have 12 volunteers at each fo the 4 services every weekend, and this week we came super close! We had some people checking things out, and some faithfuls as well. We used a high school student leader on stage with Cooper to co-host the game and that went super well. VERY happy to see the boost, now we’re got to give them mission critical roles and prep them well for the discussion time to help them stick!

Favorite Moment: I loved the fact that students are really digging the two things we’ve asked them to do this New Year so far: 1) check in with their (or their parent’s) phone number and get a name tag, and 2) share a little bit of what they learned from The Weeknd service with their parents. There’s a note/announcements for parents each week on the back of the program, and I’m continually surprised that kids talk to their parents and then text in “WETALKED” to our contact number. Pretty great!

Up next: How NOT to Get Grounded (week 2 of 4)

[also a few people have been asking to follow Mariner’s JH ministry, you can on Instagram right here!]

31 Jan 2020

Mariners JH Weekend in Review: Volume 4

By |2020-01-31T11:04:28-08:00January 31st, 2020|Games, Leadership, Mariners Youth Ministry, Teaching/Programming, Youth Ministry Hacks, Youth Ministry Ideas, Youth Pastor Life|4 Comments

Weekend Teaching Series: RESET: Jesus, Fresh Starts & Screaming Goats (series finale, week 4 of 4)

Sermon Synopsis: This week we wrapped up the RESET series from the start of the New Year with Doug Fields teaching (4th week in a row, yeah!) and

Service Length: 62 minutes

Element of Fun/Positive Environment: This week we played a fun active game called Extreme 4 Corners Impossible Edition (you can find it here on DYM) but we tweaked it to have 4 colors instead of multiple choice letters and had lights in the corners of the room they kids picked their answer by going to the color they thought had the correct answer. Questions are intentionally impossible, here’s an example of how the modified slides looked:

If I’m honest with you … it didn’t go great. We switched up the game for the other services, hey it happens! Ha! But the star of the show was bringing in our friend David Wood to perform some card magic before/after services and to do a fun set on stage as well. He was awesome! Totally junior-high friendly show, through he worked super well with our high school students as well for Youth Culture Weekend which happened the past few days as well. If you’re interested in bringing in David, get details/watch videos here.

Music Playlist: Freedom

Takeaway: This week we continued to use “Pick Me” from DYM’s Sidekick App to help parents text in if they had a conversation with their kid about the program/outline service. It is working and we’re trying out best to connect JH students and their home for discipleship!

Volunteer Involvement: We’re working hard to get volunteers at each service. Having them lead at tables is SO huge and we will be working hard on this so if you come visit our youth group next time you’re in California, you’ll see 12 adults at each service!

Favorite Moment: I LOVE David Wood. Is that weird? He’s SO unassuming, so humble and so good. He may have sold his soul to the devil to get this good at magic, but I’m a fan and he crushed with our students.

Up next: NEW series! How NOT to Get Grounded(series premiere, week 1 of 4)

28 Jan 2020

Youth Workers: Fight the Thursday Discouragement!

By |2020-01-28T10:46:55-08:00January 28th, 2020|Leadership, Teaching/Programming, Youth Pastor Life|0 Comments

So, it didn’t go well last night in your opinion, eh? Record low students? Record high disciplinary problems? Record hard unsolicited feedback from THOSE kids? Record number of tech issues? Record count of lies you started to believe at the end of the message?

Oh. Was that last one a bit too close to home?

Look, I get it. after ten years of youth ministry, I’ve felt the sting of a “bad night” over the course of the years. And while the beginning of this blog post seems more like an infomercial on public television on Saturday morning, the reality is that many youth workers have been there. That night that just didn’t seem to go as well as you wanted.

In the midst of “bad nights” some of the lowest moments for me have come on the heels of feedback that I received from the students that I’m trying to serve. And it never matters if it is solicited or unsolicited, when it is negative and it hits on the wrong night, it stings. The reality is that left unchecked with truth and reality, it can sting hard and sometimes hard enough to push you out of ministry.

So, when you get the negative feedback from “that kid” (and to be clear, we all know him and his name is Jimmy and on his best days he is annoying and on his worst days he crushes you with his sledge hammer of opinion) here are some things to think about and help you “capture every thought and make it obedient to Christ,” as Paul might say:

  1. They are students.

I’m not sure how old they are, but they aren’t old enough to have enough wisdom and experience to know what is effective or not. They aren’t cognizant of what is financially possible, or what can be resourced with the people that you have on your staff. While they think they know everything, they absolutely do not because their age and their shoe size are not distant enough apart yet and that, unfortunately, is the way to determine just how much expertise and street cred comes into the conversation.

So keep that in mind when you hear their feedback.

  1. You aren’t doing EVERYTHING wrong.

You might not be doing everything “right” or great. But you are not doing EVERYTHING wrong. You may be not be connecting with a few students, but you aren’t missing EVERYONE. Don’t let the lies of the Enemy convince you that every effort you are putting forth is worthless. When our emotions and feelings drive us, truth won’t be the thing that directs us. Their uneducated analysis and your unfiltered emotional response will only lead to the belief of lies that, quite simply, are not remotely true. If God has placed you there, then He is going to use you there. You are doing SOMETHING right but just showing up for kids and investing your life. So keep that in mind when you process their feedback.

  1. Feedback reveals more about the giver not the receiver.

I refer you to #1 and remind you that they just revealed something to you that not every student does: where they are in their faith. While it stings because, and I remind you of #1 again, they seem to be blaming you for their spiritual apathy, they just indicated that they clearly aren’t ready for the spiritual meat you prepared for them in the way that you have prepared it. Some students are ready to jump to the New York Strip, Medium on the Rare side, with garlic butter on top. But not every student is. Some students are only ready to drink the milk from the sippy cup with the handles on the side so you can hold it with two hands. So, perhaps this unfortunate and stinging indictment wasn’t of you, but more an indicator of them. Give them grace and recognize that you need wisdom from Jesus on how to lead them more specifically so you can connect with them more precisely. So keep that in mind as you try to consider next steps.

  1. Remember that you are not the fruit

Remember that you are not the fruit; you are the branch. Your job is to do branch-like things and stick to the vine so that you can bear more fruit. This morning, press hard into Jesus and then do whatever He says. That’s the branchy thing to do. Often we can get so involved and so invested in our ministry and the fruit of our lives that we begin to believe that we begin to focus on our fruit that we forget to do branchy things. Branches can’t produce fruit if they don’t first do the branchy thing of sticking close to the vine. He will produce fruit through you or the Father will prune it so you can produce more fruit. But you have to remember that you are the branch. So remember that when the Enemy tries to convince you to quit.

  1. You are loved.

Remember that you are loved. Because you are. And nothing in the world or above the world can separate you from the Love of Christ Jesus. I didn’t say that, Paul did and he seemed like a pretty confident dude who went through some stuff. So keep that in mind throughout the whole thing because on your worst day and on your best day, His love still remains and that will never change.

Find the blessings and then get back after it tomorrow.

Geoff Cocanower loves Jesus, his wife, the Church (primarily students, families and youth workers), and has been doing the youth ministry thing since 2008. Geoff is all about authentically leading and empowering others to flourishing life in Christ. You can find him online at www.pastorgeoff.com or on all the socials @geoffcocanower.

 

22 Jan 2020

Mariners JH Weekend in Review: Volume 3

By |2020-01-21T09:38:25-08:00January 22nd, 2020|Games, Leadership, Mariners Youth Ministry, Teaching/Programming, Youth Ministry Hacks, Youth Ministry Ideas, Youth Pastor Life|1 Comment

Weekend Teaching Series: RESET: Jesus, Fresh Starts & Screaming Goats (week 3 of 4)

Sermon Synopsis: This week Doug Fields was back for a 3rd week in a row (what a way to start the New Year) teaching about the miracles of Jesus to our students. Doug used Sidekick Pick Me to have some fun with some students who used the “check in” system from the church when they arrived and kids loved seeing their name on the screen and win King Size candy, too! The emphasis of the message was on the Living Water and the Samaritan woman at the well. no pain, past or problem keeps Jesus from loving you.

Service Length: 66 minutes

Element of Fun/Positive Environment: We got to play the brand-spankin’ new Screaming or Fainting Goats Volume 2 game from DYM this week and as always that game is a huge hit. We also played into the goats theme with a clip from Justin Bieber’s Baby Baby Baby Goat music video which is a classic and made for a quick laugh, too. Attendance was a little down since 1/2 of the student ministry was at Winter Camp (also this weekend) but when you add them together it was a HUGE weekend for JH! Yeah … smart to have services for kids who couldn’t make it to camp while also going all in on the retreat, too.

Music Playlist: Alive, Only Wanna Sing

Takeaway: This week we had a couple of parent meetings that (for the first time in my ministry career) we’re actually well attended. Gave me hope! Had a blast playing games with parents, sharing the vision of the youth ministry and a short training by Doug. Get more details on that here!

Volunteer Involvement: This week our volunteers were WAY up again, but only because the team worked super hard to shake the trees to round up friends and family to serve this weekend. Most of our core leaders were away at Winter retreat, so we brought in an all-star substitute team for one week, and now it’s my job to recruit them to come regularly.

 

Favorite Moment: I LOVE that we had full JH services while 1/2 of the ministry was away at Winter Camp. And I LOVE Doug being back in youth ministry! Ran point on this whole thing, practically alone. Ha! It’s so fun … I was away, too, speaking at a Winter Camp in Ohio, so missed this one but sure do love this church and team. What a weekend!

Up next: RESET (series finale, week 4 of 4)

16 Jan 2020

But First: Volunteers

By |2020-01-16T11:22:52-08:00January 16th, 2020|Leadership, Volunteers|0 Comments

Getting volunteers for youth ministry can be one of the most difficult things about the job.  Even harder is getting good, committed leaders!  We see those high-profile church workers who have WHOLE TEAMS of really cool volunteers and we get discouraged.  What do us normal folk and smaller churches do to create a great atmosphere for our students?

First, the old ways of recruiting volunteers must be abandoned.  We can no longer expect an announcement in the bulletin to reap committed volunteers.  The requests have to be thoughtful, personal, and prayerful.  

Second, we need a comprehensive strategy.  I have seen so many Facebook posts about this issue, and I try to share my thoughts, but it really is a long-haul issue that requires more than a tweet or clever idea.  

Here are some long-term strategies I’ve used to get great volunteers:

Change your language:  You don’t have a need, you have an opportunity.  Celebrate having openings to serve in your ministry.  Leaders will be blessed by saying yes!  I hate the language “We need your help.”  Who is we and why do we need help?  Your church hired you to help them serve and lead youth.  By hiring you, they are saying, we want youth!  Help us!  Take out all the guilt-tripping and desperation language.  Here are some examples of better recruitment language:

We have some opportunities to serve coming up and we know you’ll want to get in on the fun.  

Great news:  Our youth ministry is growing and we have openings for you to be a part of it!

Your youth want to serve, learn and grow together and they want you to join their mission!

Do not wait for summer:  Start now recruiting for fall.  Summer is too late, and if you haven’t noticed, spring is also too busy for people to even think about the next school year.  The longer you wait, the more likely they will have committed to something else.  Recruiting now gives your candidates some opportunities to come to youth group times or leader meetings to check things out.  It also gives them the opportunity to chaperone a summer event and start fall knowing names and hearts in your group.  

Identify Leaders: I have four ways I like to identify potential leaders for my ministry.  

    1. Sit down with your lead pastor or pastor to adults and identify some people together.  It is that pastor’s job to know the gifting of the adults in your congregation.  Get together and brainstorm some names.  Once you’ve determined a list, have that pastor reach out the them individually and discuss the opportunity.  Make sure if that person is committed elsewhere, you discuss what duties your pastor is comfortable asking them to replace with youth work.  NOTE:  I think it is also important to make sure whatever timing on the calendar your church does “nominating” (or whatever they call putting people on committees) that they do so with youth workers in mind.  You need to find a way to sync up with that process so they aren’t poaching your leaders for other jobs, and so they perhaps consider who can work with youth when they are thinking of all the other needs of the church.  
    1. Ask everyone on your current team to identify one person to ask.  Have them all come to the next leader’s meeting with 1-2 people they think would be a great fit.  People like to serve with their friends, and no one knows what leading looks like better  than your current team.  Discuss it as a team and then decide who should do the asking.  
    2. Identify parents who will be a good fit.  Maybe you noticed that one parent who stays up late playing cards with students when chaperoning a retreat.  That parents who hangs around and helps you clean up after service.  The parents who knows lots of student’s names and gives lots of rides to help other parents.  These are people who should be doing more than driving and signing up for snacks.  Tell them you’ve noticed their heart and need more people like them on your team!
    3. Ask your students who they would like for you to ask.  Whenever I ask students, they always have ideas of who they want to lead them.  It is so great to be able to go up to a potential leader and say: “Our youth have personally asked for you as a potential leader.”  

Ask Personally:  Once you identify leaders, ask them personally to join you.  I like to start with an email that spells out exactly what the job will entail, ask them to pray, and follow up in person.  You might find a phone call is better (okay, Boomers).  This is the time to reassure them there will be training and support.  This is also when you share your vision for youth ministry and get them excited to serve.  Make sure you mention that others (pastor, leaders, youth) identified them as someone they want to see leading youth.  People want to feel like you believe in them and they will be important to the ministry, not guilted into helping.  

Offer Training:  I find people are more likely to serve when they know they will be equipped for the job.  Training can be tricky because that is even MORE time they will have to dedicate to serving.  That’s why I love DYM University.  You can even just start with the training videos included in your DYM membership!  I do think offering more than one opportunity can help people fit training into their schedule.  Here is a list of possibilities to for training for your team:

    1. DYMU:  DYM University allows leaders to train at home on their own time.  The best part is that you get to monitor progress know who is getting the training.  This is a fantastic way to allow busy leaders to serve. 
    1. NDYWT:  Sign up to host or sign up to attend a National Day of Youth Ministry Training event.  This event brings a national-level training directly into your church.  Get conference-live training in just one morning.  You can make the event really fun and network with other churches who have the same goal of reaching youth in your community.  Last year was incredible and most hosts and participants received overwhelmingly positive response from their teams.  
    1. NYWC:  Set a goal of brining a team…or even one volunteer with you to the National Youth Worker’s Convention in November.  Then you can split up and cover more sessions and bring twice the information back to your team.  My brother-in-law sent a small team of volunteers this year to NYWC instead of going himself, and that team he sent is leading all his leader meetings this spring with what they learned at the convention.  What a great idea to equip leaders to train each other!
    1. Church Training Day:  Many churches have a day when all their new positions (greeters,  finance officers, etc.),  are trained for the year.  Get in on this!  Some folks might even come to your session out of curiosity.  Use a video training or prepare a more customized presentation for your church.  It is easier for adults to prioritize attending one church-wide training day than a bunch of different days.  There may even be childcare and food provided that doesn’t come out of your budget.
    1. Local Denom Training:  In my denomination, they offer training for youth ministry several times a year in my local conference.  Usually this is free or for a very small fee.  Also, in my denom, conference staff (for instance our Director of Next Gen Ministries for our state) will come to your church free of charge to speak or lead training.  I have taken advantage of this many times!
    1. Local Seminaries:  Many times, your local seminaries will offer “Seminary for a Day” type training events.  Our local seminary is not a huge institution, but it offers this for free through a grant, and gets top names!  This can be an easy way to get top-notch training for your team.  

Your strategy will certainly look different for your own ministry, but I hope these examples have inspired you to create a strategy that will work in your context.  And don’t leave out prayer!   Pray over each of these steps, and get ready to be blessed by God’s faithfulness your students!

Ansley Higginbotham is a great youth worker (our words, not hers) and we’re totally fans. Hoping for more posts from her in the future!

8 Jan 2020

Fresh Youth Ministry Eyes … For Just a Short Time

By |2020-01-08T10:10:11-08:00January 8th, 2020|Leadership, Mariners Youth Ministry, Teaching/Programming|0 Comments

I’m walking into Mariner’s Junior High ministry as one of the youth pastors on staff. I’m joining a couple of other great youth workers and have served this ministry before as a guest speaker and even the High School Ministry as a camp speaker a summer ago. I love this church!

But today, I’m walking in brand spankin’ new to this whole thing. A significant part of the responsibility of the ministry lands squarely on me. And since I’m the new guy … I’ve got fresh eyes. Which is huge! It only takes a short time before you become accustomed to the way things are, you stop asking probing questions, and you lose that advantage of sharing from a new perspective. I’ve got a huge list, tons to work on, and am probably annoying people with questions. But I’ve got to take advantage of this little window.

How do you take advantage of “fresh eyes”?

    • If you’re new, make a massive list and ask tons of questions.
    • Find a new volunteer or parent to be your fresh eyes this week.
    • Ask your mentor to swing into youth group randomly one weekend and surprise evaluate your program.
    • If you’re not new, walk out the door, come back in, and intentionally see what you normally miss.

JG

18 Dec 2019

Do Your Leaders Know How To “WIN” In Your Ministry?

By |2019-12-15T22:41:16-08:00December 18th, 2019|Leadership, Small Groups, Youth Ministry Hacks|0 Comments

It’s a great question to ask in your ministry and about your leaders. If I was to come to visit your youth ministry one week and I was to walk around with your leaders and ask them:

What does it mean for you to be winning as a leader in your ministry?

What would they say? Would all the answers be the same? Would they all be different? Would they even know how to answer? Does it scare you to think about it?

No matter what kind of leader you are and what kind of leaders you have, everyone wants to know if they are winning or not. Everyone wants to know be able to track themselves to see how they are doing. Even if they don’t tell you that and they seem like they don’t care, leaders want to know how to win.

When leaders know what the wins are they are more likely to hit it.

The picture above is the wins for our leaders.

  1. A conversation about Jesus – All leaders are small group leaders. Did they have a conversation about Jesus? If they did. It’s a win.
  2. Follow up – When a new student came and was placed into their small group, did they follow up before the next service? Did they follow up with a conversation they had in the group with a student? That’s a win.
  3. Wednesday + – Did you interact in some way outside of Wednesday night throughout the week? That’s a win.

We don’t need a ton of wins, but some that are important for you and your ministry to move forward. Some things to keep in mind when setting wins for your leaders:

  • Simple, clear, concise goals. They need to be memorable. 
  • 1-4 most important goals. 
  • Communicate with them every single week in some way, shape or form. 
  • Follow up in one-on-ones if leaders are not meeting them. It’s a great way of accountability. 
  • This is how you upkeep your leader culture. You are the keeper of your culture.

So what are your wins? Do your leaders know them? If so, awesome! If not, I think it’s something you should gather your leaders in this season and have a good set of “wins” for your leaders to have in the new year.

@justinknowles3

 

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