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21 Apr 2025

What’s Blocking Them? Diagnosing Volunteer Drop-Off

By |2025-04-21T06:48:18-07:00April 21st, 2025|Leadership|0 Comments

Remember the diamond?

So you gave them the What.
You inspired them with the Why.
You clarified the When and handed them the How.

And still… nothing.

No game led. No follow-up email sent. No small group questions printed. Just a well-meaning volunteer who left the ball sitting squarely on the floor.

Before you fire off a passive-aggressive group text, let me introduce you to the middle of the diamond—the Block.


💎 The Diamond, Revisited:

Each point of the Diamond Strategy helps your volunteers succeed:

  • What – What do you want them to do?

  • Why – Why does it matter?

  • When – When should it happen?

  • How – How should they do it?

But in the center is the Block—that invisible, unspoken thing that gets in the way even when everything else is clear.

And let’s be honest: most of us skip over it. Why? Because it’s messy.


What Could the Block Be?

Here are some of the most common “blocks” I’ve seen in 16 years of youth ministry:

🚧 Emotional Blocks

  • “I didn’t feel confident enough to lead that discussion.”

  • “I was afraid I’d mess it up in front of the students.”

  • “Honestly, I don’t think the students like me.”

🚧 Situational Blocks

  • Sick kid at home

  • Last-minute work shift

  • “I forgot my kid had a recital.”

🚧 Relational Blocks

  • Ongoing drama with another leader

  • A student who triggers anxiety

  • A parent who corners them every week with complaints

🚧 Ministry Culture Blocks

  • They don’t feel empowered—they feel used.

  • They don’t know how to give feedback, so they go silent.

  • They feel like they’re just filling a spot, not part of the team.


So What Do You Do?

When a volunteer doesn’t follow through, ask yourself this first:

“Did I check the diamond before assuming they just didn’t care?”

Then—don’t attack the person. Just go block hunting.
Try these phrases:

  • “Hey, I noticed [task] didn’t happen—was there something that got in the way?”

  • “You’re usually super reliable. Anything we need to troubleshoot together?”

  • “Was it clear what I was asking, or was there something that made it hard to follow through?”

Those kinds of questions open a door for honesty—and healing.


A Real-World Example:

I had a volunteer once who skipped leading her small group three weeks in a row. I was ready to pull her from the team.

Then I sat down and asked what was going on. She broke down in tears and told me her husband had just lost his job.

The block wasn’t rebellion—it was real life.

That conversation didn’t just save her spot on the team—it deepened her connection to our ministry.


Final Thought:

When volunteers drop the ball, they don’t need shame.
They need clarity, care, and curiosity.

Look for the block, talk about it, and walk with them through it. That’s what great leadership looks like.

7 Apr 2025

The Diamond Strategy: A Simple Tool to Equip and Empower Your Volunteers

By |2025-04-07T11:24:37-07:00April 7th, 2025|Leadership|0 Comments


You know that moment when a volunteer drops the ball and you’re not sure if it was a lack of training, miscommunication, or just plain life chaos? Yeah, me too.

After 16 years in youth ministry, I’ve learned that a lot of frustration in volunteer leadership comes down to this: we thought we were clear… but something got lost along the way.

That’s where the Diamond Strategy comes in. It’s a way to give direction, support, and accountability to your team—and to do it without turning into the “boss” nobody wants to serve with.

Let me break it down for you.


The Diamond Strategy

Picture a diamond. Each point of the diamond represents one of four key things every volunteer needs to succeed:

  1. What – What exactly do you want them to do?
  2. Why – Why does it matter for the mission or for students?
  3. When – What’s the deadline or time commitment?
  4. How – How should they go about it? Are there tools, steps, or guidelines?

And in the middle? That’s the Block—anything unexpected or unspoken that can keep them from following through, even with the best intentions.


💎 Let’s Break Down the Points

1. What

Be clear. “Can you lead a small group?” is vague. “Can you lead 6th grade boys for 8 weeks using this curriculum, starting next Wednesday at 6:30 PM?”—now that’s a what.

Clarity removes excuses and gives volunteers the confidence to say yes—or no—based on real expectations.

2. Why

Don’t skip this one. Vision sticks when it’s connected to meaning. Why does this task matter? How does it help students know Jesus? Why is their role a critical part of the bigger picture?

People will forget instructions. They won’t forget purpose.

3. When

Every task needs a clock or a calendar. Even your most reliable volunteers need to know: Is this weekly? By Sunday night? Before the event starts?

“When” turns ideas into action.

4. How

This is where we train and empower. “Lead the game” is fine. But “You’ll run the game with these supplies, for this long, using this PDF I uploaded in Planning Center” is a gift.

Even seasoned volunteers appreciate knowing how you want something done—because it shows you care about setting them up to win.


⛔ The Block in the Middle

Sometimes, they knew what, why, when, and how—but still didn’t do it. That’s where the block comes in.

This could be:

  • A student who emotionally derails group time
  • A parent who hijacks the room with unsolicited “input”
  • A sudden life issue (divorce, job loss, burnout)
  • Anxiety or fear they didn’t voice

That “block” is where grace meets accountability.

This is your moment to circle back and ask, “Hey, it seems like something got in the way. Let’s talk about it.” Now you’re coaching, not just correcting.


💬 Using the Diamond in Real Conversations

When you’re checking in with a volunteer, especially if something went sideways, run the diamond in your head:

  • Did I clearly explain the what?
  • Did they understand the why?
  • Was the when reasonable and clear?
  • Did I equip them with a helpful how?
  • Is there a block we didn’t talk about?

If you’re missing one point—or if the middle is full of landmines—you’ve got your answer. And you’ve got a roadmap to follow up well.


🔁 The Bonus Power: Circling Back

The beauty of this strategy is that it’s built for follow-up. When a task doesn’t go as planned, you don’t have to guess or get passive-aggressive. You just pull out the diamond and talk through it.

“Hey, I know we talked about you leading the game last night, but I noticed it didn’t happen. Can we talk through it together?”

That conversation is so much easier when it’s framed around shared expectations—not personal failure.


Final Thought:

The Diamond Strategy doesn’t just help volunteers stay on track—it helps you pastor them. It creates space for grace, growth, and honest conversations. And at the end of the day, that’s what your team really needs.

31 Mar 2025

Spring Forward: Helping Students Grow Spiritually After a Winter Slump

By |2025-03-17T08:13:20-07:00March 31st, 2025|Leadership|3 Comments

Winter has a way of making everything feel sluggish—students, leaders, and let’s be honest, even us youth pastors. Between holiday breaks, bad weather, and the general exhaustion of the school year, it’s easy for faith habits to take a hit. But now that spring is here, it’s time to help students shake off the slump and start growing again.

Just like nature comes back to life in spring (hello, allergies 🌸), this is a perfect season to refresh students’ faith, reestablish good habits, and help them take the next step spiritually. Here’s how to help them spring forward into a season of growth.

1. Start with Small, Achievable Goals

A lot of students know they should be reading their Bible, praying, and growing in their faith… they just don’t know where to start. Instead of overwhelming them with a massive commitment, help them set small, achievable goals.

Challenge them to read one chapter of the Bible a day, pray for a friend each morning, or find one worship song that connects with them. Small wins build momentum, and momentum leads to growth.

2. Refresh Your Teaching & Small Groups

If winter felt like a rut, spring is a great time to shake things up. Try a new teaching format, start a fresh series that meets students where they are, or change up how small groups run.

You could introduce student-led discussions, incorporate creative prayer stations, or even meet outside if the weather allows. Anything that feels new will help re-engage students who checked out during the colder months.

3. Plan a Spiritual Reset Event

Sometimes, students need a big moment to help them move forward. Spring is a great time for a spiritual reset night—a focused evening of worship, prayer, and recommitment.

This doesn’t have to be a huge event. It could be as simple as a night where students share testimonies, write down distractions they need to let go of, or take communion together. The goal is to help them see spring as a fresh start in their walk with Jesus.

4. Make Faith Habits Fun & Relational

Let’s be real—students are more likely to stick with something if they do it together. Encourage them to find a faith buddy—a friend they can text when they read their Bible, pray for daily, or talk about what God is teaching them.

You could even turn this into a friendly challenge:
✅ Who can memorize the most Bible verses?
✅ Who can complete a short devotion series on YouVersion?
✅ Who can invite a new friend to church first?

Healthy competition plus spiritual growth? That’s a win-win.

5. Show Them Progress, Not Perfection

One reason students struggle with faith habits is because they think, If I mess up once, I’ve failed. But the goal isn’t perfection—it’s progress.

Remind them that spiritual growth is like planting a seed. You won’t see fruit overnight, but consistent care—small steps of faith—will lead to big results. Celebrate their progress, encourage them when they stumble, and remind them that God is working even when they don’t feel it.

Spring into Growth

Spring is all about new beginnings, and it’s the perfect time to help students grow in their faith again. Whether it’s through small steps, fresh teaching, or intentional encouragement, you can help them move forward after a winter slump.

So take a deep breath, shake off the sluggishness, and let’s help students spring forward in their walk with Jesus! 🌱🙌

17 Mar 2025

Spring Cleaning Your Youth Ministry: Evaluating What’s Working and What Needs to Change

By |2025-03-17T07:52:15-07:00March 17th, 2025|Leadership|3 Comments

Spring is here, which means it’s time for warmer weather, allergy season, and that moment when students start asking, “Are we still meeting during the summer?” But before you get too far ahead planning beach trips and summer camp, let’s talk about something that doesn’t involve pollen or panicked vacation planning—spring cleaning your youth ministry.

No, I’m not talking about finally throwing away that pile of pizza boxes in the youth room (though, seriously, it’s time). I’m talking about evaluating your ministry, figuring out what’s working, and making changes before summer hits. Just like your house, your ministry can collect clutter—things that once had a purpose but now just take up space.

Step 1: Take a Hard Look at Your Weekly Programming

If you’ve been running the same format for months (or years), it’s easy to get stuck in autopilot. Take a step back and ask: Is our weekly program actually engaging students? Are students growing in their faith, or just showing up for snacks and games? (Snacks are great, but hopefully, that’s not the only reason they come.)

Look at your teaching. Are you addressing what students are dealing with right now? Are your small groups actually facilitating conversation, or is it mostly blank stares and side conversations about TikTok? Take a moment to ask your leaders and students what’s clicking and what’s falling flat.

Step 2: Evaluate Your Volunteers

Your adult leaders are the backbone of your ministry, but even the best volunteers need encouragement, feedback, and sometimes a reality check. Who’s thriving? Who’s barely hanging on? Who maybe signed up to help in 2019 and is still around out of pure momentum?

Spring is a great time to reconnect with your team. Schedule a check-in with each leader, get their honest input, and (if needed) reassign roles so people serve where they’re most effective. If someone seems burned out, don’t guilt them into staying—help them transition well and recruit fresh faces for the team.

Step 3: Declutter Your Calendar

Youth pastors love events. Lock-ins, retreats, game nights, service projects—if there’s an excuse to hang out with students, we’ll take it. But is your ministry calendar jam-packed with things just because they’ve always been there?

Take a look at your schedule and be honest: Are these events actually helping students grow spiritually? If not, cut them. It’s okay to let go of something that no longer serves its purpose. Plus, a little breathing room might help you (and your leaders) avoid burnout.

Step 4: Set Fresh Goals

After decluttering, it’s time to dream again. What do you want to see happen in your youth ministry over the next few months? More student leadership? A deeper culture of prayer? Better engagement from parents? Whatever it is, set a few clear goals and rally your team around them.

Spring Forward

Spring cleaning isn’t just about getting rid of junk—it’s about making space for what really matters. Take time this season to refocus, refresh, and make sure your youth ministry is actually helping students grow in their faith. And yes, go ahead and clean out that storage closet while you’re at it. You might even find that missing dodgeball from last fall’s game night.

28 Feb 2025

Leaders Are Learners

By |2025-02-28T13:02:30-08:00February 28th, 2025|josh griffin, Leadership, Podcast|4 Comments

As youth workers, we’re called to lead and guide the next generation. But how can we do that effectively if we’re not continually growing ourselves? Here are six crucial steps to becoming a learning leader in youth ministry:

1. Choose Humility

  • Recognize that you don’t know everything
  • Be open to new ideas and perspectives
  • Understand that learning is a lifelong process

2. Identify Your Learning Strengths and Weaknesses

  • Reflect on how you learn best (reading, listening, discussing, etc.)
  • Recognize barriers that prevent you from learning effectively
  • Develop strategies to overcome these barriers

3. Be Intentional

  • Schedule time for learning in your calendar
  • Set specific learning goals
  • Follow through on your learning commitments

4. Go Wide

  • Explore a variety of topics, not just ministry-related ones
  • Learn from diverse sources (books, podcasts, conferences, conversations)
  • Don’t be afraid to venture outside your comfort zone

5. Go Deep

  • Once you find a topic that resonates, dive in
  • Explore multiple perspectives on the subject
  • Apply what you’ve learned to your ministry

6. Share and Apply Your Learning

  • Discuss what you’re learning with others
  • Implement changes in your ministry based on your new knowledge
  • Be innovative and willing to try new approaches

“When you stop learning, you stop leading.”

By committing to these steps, you’ll not only grow as a leader but also set an example for the youth you serve. Your continuous learning will translate into a more dynamic, relevant, and impactful ministry.

So, which of these steps will you focus on this week to sharpen your leadership ax?

Listen to the whole conversation here:

30 Jan 2025

How Leaders Have Difficult Conversations

By |2025-01-30T14:14:49-08:00January 30th, 2025|Leadership|11 Comments

For a leader, difficult conversations are unavoidable.

Whether it’s addressing a sensitive issue, providing constructive criticism, or setting boundaries, these conversations can be challenging. However, they are essential for growth, trust, and the health of your team or ministry. So, how do we approach these moments with wisdom, grace, and confidence? Here are some practical steps to help guide you through even the toughest conversations:

1. Consider the Consequences

Before diving in, take a moment to reflect on what will happen if the issue remains unaddressed. Ask yourself, “What is the trajectory if I do nothing?” Often, avoiding conflict may lead to bigger problems down the road. Identifying the stakes will give you clarity on why the conversation is necessary.

2. Set Clear Goals

Define what you hope to accomplish from the conversation. Is it resolving a misunderstanding? Creating accountability? Helping someone grow? Having a clear objective ensures the discussion stays focused and productive.

3. Prepare and Anticipate

Take time to think through the conversation. Anticipate possible reactions and prepare responses accordingly. Consider the other person’s perspective—this will help you approach the conversation with empathy and reduce the chances of unnecessary defensiveness.

4. Control Your Emotions

It’s critical to manage your emotions before entering the conversation. A calm, composed tone sets the stage for a fruitful dialogue. While passion or frustration may feel justified, letting emotions take over can derail the discussion. Remember: speak the truth in love.

5. Discover the Root Cause

Before addressing the surface issue, dig deeper to understand the root of the problem. Was the mistake intentional or accidental? Is the behavior driven by ignorance or malice? Understanding the “why” behind someone’s actions will help you approach the situation with the right tone and strategy.

6. Deepen Your Compassion

Even in moments of correction, show grace. Compassion disarms defensiveness and fosters an environment where growth is possible. Remind yourself of the individual’s strengths and value to the team, and let that shape your approach.

7. Communicate Effectively

When the time comes, be clear and concise. Avoid rambling or overanalyzing. Stick to the issue at hand, and create a safe space for open dialogue. Active listening—repeating back what you hear and asking thoughtful questions—can go a long way in building mutual understanding.

8. Follow Up

A difficult conversation shouldn’t be a “one and done” event. Follow up to ensure progress is being made and to check on how the individual is processing the discussion. If needed, summarize the conversation in writing to avoid misunderstandings and keep everyone accountable.

9. Communicate Up When Necessary

If appropriate, inform your leadership team about the conversation, especially if it could have broader implications. Giving them a heads-up ensures they won’t be blindsided if the issue resurfaces.

 

Difficult conversations are never easy, but they are often the catalyst for growth, clarity, and stronger relationships. When approached with intentionality, empathy, and a clear objective, these moments can transform challenges into opportunities for lasting impact. Leadership is not about avoiding hard things—it’s about stepping into them with courage and grace.

 


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27 Jan 2025

I’m a Youth Pastor and… What if I Don’t Want to be a Youth Pastor Anymore?

By |2025-01-07T11:09:51-08:00January 27th, 2025|Leadership|2 Comments

Let’s rip the Band-Aid off: what happens when you realize the passion that got you into youth ministry isn’t there anymore? Is it burnout? Mid-ministry crisis? Or—dare I say it—a sign that God’s calling you elsewhere?

If you’re wrestling with these questions, you’re not alone. Ministry isn’t a static journey, and passions can shift over time. The important thing is learning how to navigate these changes without guilt or fear.


Recognizing the Shift

The first step? Acknowledge what you’re feeling. Here are some signs your heart might be moving in a new direction:

1. Changing Interests

The stuff that used to light your fire—lock-ins, small groups, and dodgeball marathons—might now feel like just another thing on your to-do list.

2. New Desires

Maybe you’re dreaming of something different. A new type of ministry? A different career path altogether? These feelings don’t make you unfaithful—they make you human.

3. Feeling Drained

Tasks that once energized you now leave you exhausted. This might be a sign it’s time to reevaluate where you’re investing your energy.


Embracing the Change

Change can feel unsettling, but it’s also an invitation to grow. Here’s how to lean into it:

1. Self-Reflection

Spend time praying, journaling, and asking yourself some hard questions. What excites you now? What feels lifeless? Honest self-assessment is the foundation for meaningful change.

2. Seek Guidance

Reach out to trusted mentors, friends, or even a counselor. They can help you process your feelings, offer perspective, and encourage you to take steps forward.

3. Explore New Opportunities

Be open to where God might be leading you. This could mean exploring a different role in ministry, a new area of service, or even a different career path.

4. Don’t Force It

If your passion for youth ministry has faded, it’s okay to let go. Forcing yourself to stay in a role that doesn’t align with your calling can lead to frustration—for you and the students you serve.


Finding Fulfillment

Once you’ve embraced the possibility of change, it’s time to move toward something life-giving:

1. Follow Your Passion

God’s calling for you might look different than it did before, and that’s okay. Pursue the things that genuinely excite and fulfill you.

2. Embrace Change

Change isn’t failure; it’s growth. Trust that God is with you in the transition and that He has a plan for your next steps.

3. Stay Connected to Your Calling

Even if your role shifts, your ultimate calling to love and serve God remains the same. Keep seeking ways to live that out in whatever context you find yourself.

4. Prioritize Self-Care

Change can be exhausting. Take care of your physical, emotional, and spiritual health so you can step into the future with clarity and energy.


The Key Takeaway

Realizing you don’t want to be a youth pastor anymore doesn’t mean you’ve failed—it means God might be stirring something new in your heart. Embrace the shift, seek guidance, and trust that God is leading you into a season where you can serve with fresh passion and purpose.

You’ve got this.

And hey, if you need more encouragement (or just want to hear some great stories about burnout and surviving it), check out the video conversation I had with Josh Boldman, Derry Prenket, and Todd Pearage [You can watch it here].

20 Jan 2025

I’m a youth pastor and I took a day off. Am I a sinner now?

By |2025-01-07T10:50:05-08:00January 20th, 2025|Leadership|0 Comments

Let’s start with a confession (because we’re all about those): I took a day off. I know, shocking, right? Somewhere, there’s a well-meaning youth worker whispering, “But what about the students?” Don’t worry—they’ll survive without you for one day.

Taking time for self-care in ministry can feel downright rebellious. But here’s the truth: self-care isn’t selfish—it’s holy. Yes, holy. Let’s talk about why prioritizing yourself isn’t just okay—it’s essential.


Why Self-Care Matters

1. It Prevents Burnout

Youth ministry isn’t for the faint of heart (or the short of patience). The endless stream of events, parent emails, and late-night texts can leave you feeling like a wrung-out sponge. Self-care is how you recharge before the burnout sets in, leaving you emotionally and spiritually fried.

2. It Makes You Better at Your Job

When you’re rested and recharged, you’re a better youth pastor. You’ll find more patience for that kid who keeps flipping water bottles mid-sermon and more creativity for engaging lessons. Self-care equips you to serve with energy and joy—not just survival mode.

3. It Sets a Good Example

Your students are watching you, and they’re learning from your habits. By modeling healthy boundaries, you’re teaching them that it’s okay to say no, to rest, and to care for their own well-being. That’s a lesson they’ll carry for life.


Practical Self-Care Tips for Youth Workers

If you’re wondering where to start, here’s a cheat sheet:

1. Schedule Rest

Treat your rest time like a non-negotiable meeting with the most important person you know—because it is. Whether it’s a full day, a few hours, or an unplugged evening, carve out space to recharge and guard it fiercely.

2. Set Boundaries

Repeat after me: It’s okay to say no. You don’t have to be at every event or take on every task. Saying no to one thing is saying yes to your health and longevity in ministry.

3. Delegate Like a Pro

You’re not the ministry superhero. (Sorry, but capes are out of style anyway.) Train your volunteers, empower your team, and let others share the load.

4. Pursue Hobbies

What do you love that has nothing to do with ministry? Reading? Baking? Kayaking? Whatever it is, make time for it. Life isn’t all lock-ins and sermon prep.

5. Invest in Relationships

Surround yourself with people who refresh your soul—friends, family, mentors. These connections remind you that you’re more than just a youth pastor.

6. Prioritize Your Spiritual Practices

Your relationship with God is the foundation of your ministry. Spend time in prayer, read your Bible, and worship without it being tied to planning your next talk.

7. Seek Professional Help When Needed

There’s no shame in getting extra help. If you’re struggling emotionally, mentally, or spiritually, a counselor or therapist can offer tools to get back on track.


Self-Care Isn’t One-Size-Fits-All

Here’s the thing: what refreshes someone else might make you cringe. Love hiking? Hit the trails. Hate it? That’s cool—stay home and watch a movie. Experiment and find what genuinely recharges you.


The Big Picture

Taking a day off doesn’t make you a sinner—it makes you human. Self-care isn’t a luxury; it’s a necessity for sustainable ministry. By caring for yourself, you’re better equipped to care for others and fulfill your calling.

So, go ahead: take that day off. Pursue that hobby. Build those relationships. And for goodness’ sake, stop feeling guilty about it. Your ministry (and your sanity) will thank you.

And hey, if you need more encouragement (or just want to hear some great stories about burnout and surviving it), check out the video conversation I had with Josh Boldman, Derry Prenket, and Todd Pearage [You can watch it here].

7 Jan 2025

I’m a Youth Pastor and I Punched My Senior Pastor. Is that bad?

By |2025-01-07T10:33:01-08:00January 7th, 2025|Leadership|0 Comments

Okay, okay. I didn’t actually punch my senior pastor, but let’s be honest, we’ve all had those days where we felt like it. And if you’ve ever caught yourself fantasizing about throwing a folding chair in the staff meeting, there’s a good chance burnout is knocking on your door.

Youth ministry is one of the most rewarding gigs out there. Seriously, who else gets to eat pizza for lunch and call it a strategy meeting? But it’s also exhausting, demanding, and sometimes downright soul-crushing. Burnout? It’s not just a buzzword; it’s a very real threat. So, how do you know if you’re headed for trouble? Let’s talk about the warning signs.


Red Flags You’re on the Road to Burnout

1. A Shorter Fuse
Do you find yourself snapping at volunteers who show up late, or silently plotting revenge against that one kid who keeps asking, “Can we just play dodgeball today?”? If your patience is wearing thinner than the youth budget, it’s time to pause and take stock.

2. Constant Exhaustion
Sure, we all get tired. Late nights, lock-ins, and last-minute sermon rewrites will do that. But if you’re waking up more tired than when you went to bed—even after a full weekend off—you might need more than just a nap.

3. Inability to Disconnect
Are you checking emails while binge-watching Netflix? Answering texts about this week’s game night during family dinner? If your phone is practically an extension of your hand, you’re never giving yourself a chance to fully recharge.

4. Feeling Like You’re the Only One
Does it seem like you’re carrying the entire ministry on your back? Like no one else cares as much as you do? That “it’s all on me” mindset can be a fast track to burnout. Spoiler alert: it’s not all on you.

5. Loss of Passion
When was the last time you were genuinely excited about youth ministry? If you’re just going through the motions or secretly dreading the next Wednesday night, you’ve lost more than energy—you’ve lost your spark.


What to Do When Burnout Hits

So, what’s the game plan when these red flags start waving? Here are a few ideas to keep you from going full-on WWE in the staff meeting:

  • Talk It Out
    Call up a friend, mentor, or counselor and let them in on what’s going on. Trust me, venting to someone other than your reflection in the youth room window can work wonders.
  • Take a Break
    No, really. Step away. Whether it’s a weekend retreat or just an afternoon nap, give yourself permission to rest. Your ministry will survive without you for a hot minute, I promise.
  • Re-evaluate Your Priorities
    Are you saying “yes” to everything? Stop it. Seriously. Jesus took naps, and you can too.
  • Seek Professional Help
    If burnout has you in a chokehold, don’t hesitate to reach out to a counselor. Sometimes you need a little extra help to find your footing again.

You’re Not Alone

Here’s the thing: burnout doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means you’re human. Recognizing the signs and taking action isn’t a sign of weakness—it’s the exact opposite. And hey, if you need more encouragement (or just want to hear some great stories about burnout and surviving it), check out the video conversation I had with Josh Boldman, Derry Prenket, and Todd Pearage [You can watch it here].

Hang in there, friend. You’ve got this—and the next time you’re tempted to throw hands in a staff meeting, just remember: pizza solves most problems.

23 Dec 2024

Guest Post: From Routine to Resilience by Tim Wadsworth

By |2024-12-23T07:15:58-08:00December 23rd, 2024|Guest Post, Leadership|5 Comments

I am a creature of comfort. I like my routines and I really don’t like surprises. Well, I enjoy surprises like finding extra money in my pocket, but definitely not surprises that bring hardship. I live by the motto “work smarter, not harder” and I like to anticipate what’s coming next so I can plan and be prepared. But what happens when your crystal ball isn’t working and you can’t see into the future?

Back in September of 2024, Hurricane Helene made landfall on the east coast of Florida and started making her way up north. Our church is based in Greenville, South Carolina, so we knew we would get a lot of rain as a result. However, a day before the storm made landfall, reports indicated that the storm would change course resulting in high winds and flooding in the likes we have never seen before.

If you know my story, PTSD started setting in rather quickly due to my experience during Hurricane Andrew (you read about that here: https://shorturl.at/cdv4F . Western South Carolina and North Carolina got ravaged by Hurricane Helene. Lives were lost, homes and communities were destroyed, and so many people lost power for days and weeks. Now, as someone who likes comfort, if you take away electricity we have a receipt for discomfort.

Waking up that morning to see the damage across my state and neighborhood was the most sobering experience of my life. Neighbors started checking in on neighbors and the sounds of sirens echoed throughout the community. Communication to others was impossible because cell phones and internet were down and driving to go see someone was incredibly dangerous due to trees and electric poles blocking roads.

Once reality set in, my focus moved from my immediate family to my church family. How are my students? How is the church building? What is programming going to look like for this week? Will we even have church? Will gas and food be available around town? My normal routine of doing ministry was gone. I could either roll up in a ball and complain or embrace the hard and look for the opportunity.

After a day or so, roads began to clear and cell phones started to work. Our student ministry team got together and started making pivots. The easy decision was to cancel youth group because we still didn’t have power, but something didn’t feel right about doing that. We knew we needed to get our youth group family together to process everything going on, but our church was in no way, shape, or form operational. However, it hit me like a ton of bricks to seize the opportunity. Our team always flirted with the idea of having an outdoor service under the big blue sky but we never really pulled the trigger on it. BUT … this was the PERFECT opportunity to pull the trigger. Here’s what we learned in seizing an opportunity in the midst of hardship.

1) Perfect Opportunity to Fail 

No one thought we were crazy for making this pivot. In fact, people thought it was brilliant. Our people gave so much grace and mercy in the areas we didn’t get it right. The extra hustle that went into making this happen covered a “multitude of sins” and the extra hustle started becoming contagious. Once parents heard what we were doing, they started helping in ways we have never seen before. One parent wanted to bring their smoker and smoke up extra meat they had that would eventually go bad due to no refrigeration. Another parent donated a few generators for us to use to help power the worship band. Parents wanted to help get cars parked efficiently. There were so many other ways people chipped in as well. Students started sharing this hurricane pivot all over social media, and since nothing else was happening in town, everyone’s friends outside of youth group wanted to join us. The biggest win was seeing students come to this event that honestly may have never graced the presence of a church without it. The outreach opportunity started to grow!

2) Perfect Opportunity to Learn 

We learned so much…. especially on what NOT to do the next time we attempt something like this. The event was a huge success, but the newly seized opportunity birthed areas we didn’t know we needed to grow in. Something we were previously hesitant on quickly became a highlight of our semester. We also learned new ways to reach students in our community and how to empower our people to step up. We learned that the extra hustle goes a long way with people. We also were reminded that God doesn’t get caught off guard. This hurricane didn’t take Him by surprise. We learned that when you embrace hardship for Kingdom opportunities, it gives the Holy Spirit a platform to move in ways you normally wouldn’t see in your normal routine of ministry. We saw kids engaged and worshipping like never before. We saw small groups connect with each other and cry with those who lost their homes. We healed and bonded as a student ministry. We learned to hold all things with open hands.

3) Perfect Opportunity to See, Serve, and Love 

The number of “Thank-Yous” we heard from people outweighed the amount of “Thank-Yous” we heard in the past year. “This was awesome!” and “When can we do this again?” was being echoed all throughout the event. We hit our ultimate goal of serving our people and making teenagers feel seen and loved. They weren’t just seen, served, and loved but given a space to connect with Jesus in a unique way. A really difficult hardship brought forth a beautiful opportunity that we didn’t see coming.

I would encourage you, the reader, to think about a hardship you are currently going through right now. It might not be as crazy as a hurricane but what’s your “hurricane” right now? This could be in your personal life or in your ministry. Lean into the “hard” and ask God what He’s doing. Don’t miss the opportunity quietly brewing in your midst. Don’t miss the opportunity to fail or grow in ways you didn’t think possible. Hardship can bring incredible opportunities.

Tim Wadsworth serves as the Director of Student Ministries at North Hills Church in Taylors, SC. More than just a title, Tim is known for his genuine passion for Jesus and his heart for students, making him an invaluable and beloved member of the DYM Community.

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