Another week, another episode of the Download Youth Ministry Webshow. As always, thankful for our sponsors:
Another week, another episode of the Download Youth Ministry Webshow. As always, thankful for our sponsors:
As we lead ministries I hope our prayer is to keep growing. Not only to grow numerically but to grow spiritually, mentally and to grow in capacity of what we feel like we can do. I want to keep growing. I want to keep pushing. I want to see our ministry grow. I want to keep pushing it forward with God leading the way, as I’m sure we all do.
Here are some sayings as a leader I believe will stop you in your tracks:
I’m fine with where we are/I don’t like change – If this is true, then you have no desire to move forward. I love where I am at right now, but I have no desire to stay where I am right now in our ministry. Healthy things grow; growing things change; changing things keeps things fresh and moving things forward.
I won’t do that – This is a heart issue (unless it’s an unmoral thing, please say “I wont do that” but you get what I mean here). It is a selfish desire to keep what you have and will limit you to your own thinking of what you can and cannot do. Nothing will pinch your effectiveness by close-mindedness. Nothing will kill a spirit more than these words. Many people say this because they love what they have and the thought of saying “no” to what they have now could keep you from saying “yes” to something better. Our ministry is not ours, it’s God’s. We merely get the privilege to oversee it, watch it, grow it and care for the people in it.
I deserve this – Again, this is a heart issue. We deserve nothing yet God chooses us to bless us. “But I deserve a youth room”, “But we deserve a solid worship band”, “But we deserve…” fill in the blank. This thinking will only stunt our growth and keep us bitter at the things we don’t have and think we deserve. Usually God is waiting on us to work with what we have to see what we could do with more if we had it.
What else do you think kills growth in you, your leadership or ministry?
1. What’s your full name?
Ronald Gregory Long. Which when you look up the meanings of them, comes out to be Wise Advisor to the King. For a long time. So hopefully that means I have a long career in youth ministry (and that my pastor is a kind monarch of some sort...).
2. Where did you grow up?
Alabama! But I'm more of a War Eagle than a Roll Tide.
3. Tell us about your church: name, location, website.
I'm the middle school pastor of Wayside Chapel in San Antonio, TX. Our slice of the web is www.waysidechapel.org
4. What’s a nick name you’ve been given…but you hate. Why?
With a name like Ronald, you get pegged with the white faced man with the big red shoes. Since pre-k. Thanks mom.
5. What’s your favorite TV show from the 80’s? (If you are too young to remember the 80’s, pick A.L.F.)
Probably Voltron, or some other weird Saturday morning cartoon.
6. Computer or TV?
Computer's are just fine. Unless it's a tablet. Then let's be techy and go there.
7. How old were you when you first felt called to ministry?
I was 17 and just gone to summer camp with my youth group. I've been pursuing that call in one way or another ever since!
8. Would you rather kick a puppy or make a baby cry?
Make a baby cry. Or at least, that takes much less effort. All I do is show up and the tears start flowing. No clue why.
9. What’s a recent EPIC youth ministry mistake?
Did you know that toilet paper leaves dust? And that having your students throw 96 rolls of paper at each other in your youth room is going to create A TON of powder all over the place (eg, the expensive equipment and the screens and your clothes?). Guess whose job it was to do the morning announcements in big church that week? Yup, toilet paper dust man.
10. Have you ever left a kid on an event/camp/retreat/missions trip/etc.? Have you ever wanted to?
Oh I've wanted to. And once I did! But they were staying with a parent. Too bad it wasn't the student I wanted to leave...
11. What do you enjoy doing outside of youth ministry?
I love playing old school video games and fantasy novels. I've even written one or two! Grade A nerd over here!
12. Are you a good dancer?
I grew up Baptist. I guess that answers you question.
13. What color shoes are you wearing?
Boring gray that match everything I own. At least I try to convince my wife of that.
14. What’s the worst injury that’s happened on one of your event/camp/retreat/missions trip/etc.?
Every year I take students to camp I go to the hospital. I've seen broken wrists, broken ankles, and even a bone sticking out of a kid's arm. To be fair, he was following directions from a leader and climbing down out of the tree she told him to get out of. Then the branch broke...
15. What’s your position on infant baptism? Just kidding, nobody cares.
16. On a scale of 1 to 10, how much do you hate ALL NIGHTERS? (1 = stab me in the eye and 10 = stab me in the eye with a spoon)
I'm a middle school pastor. 11.
17. How good are you at keeping receipts? Does your church administrator love or hate you?
We get little smilely faces on our credit card statement if we turn in all the receipts. Or at least, I'm told that's what is supposed to happen. Haven't had one on mine quite yet!
18. What would you do if you could be invisible for one day?
Toilet paper a lot of my volunteer's yards. And the high school pastor's too for good measure.
19. Mac or PC?
I'm MAC all the way, but I've got not hate for the PC crowd. I mostly just feel bad for them.
20. If you had a pet sloth, what would you name him/her?
21. What is one of your irrational fears?
Voicemails. Who are you? What do you want? Am I in trouble for toilet papering your yard while invisible? So much pressure!
22. What is your favorite lunch meat?
Pepper Smoke Turkey. And now the skinny man is hungry...
Thanks Ronald! Be sure to check out his resources right here on DYM, too!
This is one reason for they party scene is always so popular: instant acceptance.
Most of the time, human beings gravitate toward a social circle that has the path of least resistance, and most of the time, this approach has devastating consequences: instead of choosing a circle of friends based on the content of their character, the decision is made on shared interests, who is cool, or who has the most "fun".
Furthermore, with the rise of social media and less physical human interaction than a decade ago, it can be easier for a teenager to engage with their phone than with another human being.
I remember a few years ago a young man visited our youth group for the first time, and upon seeing that he knew no one in the room, immediately looked at his phone and made a bee-line for the bathroom, all in the span of the first 10 seconds of him entering the church, before we even had a chance to welcome him.
How do we make teenagers feel completely at ease and welcome? For one, our greeting has to be immediate, prayerful, warm, authentic, and led by teenagers AND adults. (a side note: the "Door Holders" at Passion City Church in Atlanta are the best I have ever seen at this).
Secondly, our welcome has to be more than words. A pastor may say "welcome" from the front of the congregation, but if the whole church doesn't back it up, those words mean very little. Its one thing to say you're welcoming, its quite another to actually do it.
Its much like a greenhouse: you cannot "make" things grow, but you can create an environment where growth occurs and is fostered. We cannot make anyone choose Christ, but we can be faithful in our preparation, our presentation, our welcome and trust God for the results.
As Henri Nouwen said, “Hospitality means primarily the creation of free space where the stranger can enter and become a friend instead of an enemy. Hospitality is not to change people, but to offer them space where change can take place. It is not to bring men and women over to our side, but to offer freedom not disturbed by dividing lines."
Perhaps a ministry goal for us all is this: to be progressive in who we welcome (meaning: EVERYONE), and yet traditional in what we teach.
Ministries that are traditional in who they welcome (i.e. selective) and traditional in what they teach miss the heart of Jesus: too much truth and not enough grace. Likewise, churches that are progressive in who they welcome and progressive in what the teach also miss the heart of Jesus: too much grace and not enough truth.
I've noticed that the most effective and Christ-centered ministries in the world are progressive in who they welcome and unswervingly traditional/biblical in what they teach. They realize that this is how God loves us, and they respond in kind.
This balance of grace and truth is not an impossible balance to strike. With the Spirit's help and guidance, may we all offer this Christ-like welcome in our ministries.
Clark Chilton is a student ministries youth worker in Clemmons, NC.
I’m coming up on 6 months in my new position as the Lead Next-Gen Pastor at Christ’s Church of the Valley in San Dimas. It has been a pretty incredible journey. I left a great place at Saddleback (click HERE to read that story, it’s a good one) and entered into the unknown journey of leading my own team of people, two hefty ministries, and a whole lot of students. God is good; let’s just say that.
In the hustle and bustle of ministry, trying to cast new vision, getting to know the new volunteers and students, and sitting on our senior leadership team of the church, it can be overwhelming. It also can get to your head (thankful for my wife to bring me down to earth). It has been quite a journey and at times I have loved it but other times I have had the thoughts of, “Am I even cut out for this?” I’ sure we have hit the highs and lows of ministry. We also know ministry can be very draining and complex but it seems the easiest things are the things people most care about and remember about your leadership.
This is a list in which I think when we lead we need to remember that it really is the little things that make a huge difference. It’s something I need to remind myself:
There are probably more but all of these things are simple things I tend to overlook sometimes when leading but they are powerful. What else would you add to this list?
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I like to think that I'm pretty good at communicating with the parents of teens in my youth ministry. I send out a weekly e-mail filled with details about upcoming events. I make sure to include announcements in our Sunday bulletin. I post updates on both Facebook and Twitter. I even write regularly for our congregation's monthly newsletter.
Yet, in the last week, I've been reminded twice that I'm not always as good at this as I like to think I am.
Here's what I mean. In last week's e-mail to parents, I mentioned that we'd begin preparing for Youth Sunday at our next weekly gathering. I promptly got a message back from a freshman parent saying, “What's Youth Sunday?”
I was stunned by this. Youth Sunday - the Sunday each year when our high school teens lead every aspect of worship - is a tradition that began LONG before I arrived in my congregation seven years ago. As a result, I honestly assumed everyone knows what Youth Sunday is. So I didn't bother communicating any basic information about it.
Clearly, I was wrong.
In that same e-mail, I also included a packing list for our high school ministry's winter retreat. I promptly got a response back from the parent of a senior saying, “You usually stop for dinner on the way to the retreat and lunch on the way home but I don't see meal money listed. Do kids not need money this year?”
Oops. In my haste to get the information out, I failed to include this vital piece of information.
I quickly corrected both things. I sent out a packing list addendum and changed my weekly e-mail to include a brief explanation of Youth Sunday.
Because of how simple these things are to fix, it can be tempting to brush communication faux pas off as “no big deal”.
The problem is that communication failures actually are a big deal.
When communicating information about our youth ministries to parents, accuracy matters.
Because it builds trust.
While occasional mistakes and omissions happen, we have to intentionally take steps to make sure such things don't become our ministry's norm. After all, if parents can't trust the accuracy of our information, how can they trust us with the safety of their teens?
Over communicating details is also important because as anyone who works with children or teens knows, no one hears (or retains) everything the first time.
What's more, never assume everyone knows something. When you make that assumption, you inevitably create insiders – those who actually know what you're talking about – and outsiders who are clueless. Taking the time to communicate information – even information you think everyone probably knows – creates a welcoming environment for parents and teens alike.
Take it from me. Accurate communication with parents is important – not just for the information you're giving but for the values you're communicating.
We use Propresenter in our youth room these days - but most of the youth workers I speak with on the subject use PowerPoint. Steady and true (and better than ever) PowerPoint seems to still be the go to presentation software. Still true for you? Anyone make the jump to Keynote or Prezi? Vote in this week's youth ministry poll!