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My Secret Life: I'm A Cat Intro Video

Posted by Justin Knowles

 

For some odd reason our team has been on a cat-kick. Seems like everything we have been doing for fun involves something from the feline nature. I'm okay with it because students seem to be loving it. To play off of this, we made the above video that went over really well.

To continue it even more, we will be playing the new game this week from DYM called "Fluffy's Revenge" all about cat trivia. Here is the description:

Did you know that cats can make the same noise that the Predator makes when hunting? Another fun fact: if you were drowning, a cat would probably pour a bottle of water on top of you to speed up the process!

Fluffy's Revenge is a game of weird cat trivia. If you win, you will be embraced into a herd of cats and showered with lonely people glitter (cat hair). Decide for the loser their punishment, whether it be eating a can of cat food, or bobbing for tootsie rolls in kitty litter. 

Many will play… but only few will escape Fluffy's Revenge...

 

Justin Knowles

@justinknowles3

3 Youth Ministry Reminders for Today

Posted by Josh Griffin

Been thinking about this subject personally a little on and off, it came to a head in a conversation with my wife last night. Here are 3 “simple” reminders us as youth workers need to remember every day:

God is doing a work in your ministry. Why He’s chosen you and I in this time and place is His to know. You have less to do with the success of your ministry than you probably think. Be faithful and work hard, but know that it is God that brings in the increase and it is all about Him. When you start to think you’re something, you’ve taken a step backward.

It’s not about numbers. Success in youth ministry is about more than numbers. Some well-meaning people around you might thing otherwise, but they’re wrong. You can tell them that. Good youth ministry is what matters most – caring relational youth workers loving students and pointing them to Jesus.

It’s not about arriving. I’m afraid too often we think that someday we’ll arrive and we will … when we arrive in Heaven. Until then, be a learner and a humble servant of God.

JG

DYM AUTHOR SPOTLIGHT: RJ Grunewald

Posted by Doug Fields

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Where did you grow up? Detroit, MI… but not actually Detroit, more of the suburbs outside of Detroit.

Tell us about your church: name, location, website.  Faith Lutheran, Troy, MI… www.faithtroy.org.  And my own website is www.rjgrune.com.

What’s a nick name you’ve been given…but you hate. Why?   I had being called “buddy.”  I take it as an insult; I might call kids “buddy,” but I don’t like it for myself. 

What’s your favorite TV show from the 80’s? (If you are too young to remember the 80’s, pick A.L.F.)  I do actually remember A.L.F..

Computer or TV? Computer.

How old were you when you first felt called to ministry?  Senior in High School when I started volunteering with the Middle School Ministry. 

Would you rather kick a puppy or make a baby cry?  Kick a puppy.  I only like living things with souls. 

What’s a recent EPIC youth ministry mistake?  When a girl came out of the bathroom I jokingly pretended it stunk… apparently it was that time of the month and she was really embarrassed. 

Have you ever left a kid on an event/camp/retreat/missions trip/etc.? Have you ever wanted to?  No.  And absolutely, yes. 

What do you enjoy doing outside of youth ministry?   Family stuff, beer, and fantasy football. 

Are you a good dancer?  No. 

What color shoes are you wearing?  Gray converse. 

What’s the worst injury that’s happened on one of your event/camp/retreat/missions trip/etc.?  Nothing crazy, just broken bones. 

What’s your position on infant baptism? Just kidding, nobody cares.   Just what the Bible teaches… (note: this is sarcastic since that’s what we all think about our positions)

On a scale of 1 to 10, how much do you hate ALL NIGHTERS? (1 = stab me in the eye and 10 = stab me in the eye with a spoon)   With a spoon?  10 because I think that is the worst.  We don’t ever do them. 

How good are you at keeping receipts? Does your church administrator love or hate you?   Awful at it. I wish all receipts were digital.  What would you do if you could be invisible for one day?  If I told you I would have to kill you. 

Mac or PC?   Mac. 

What is one of your irrational fears?  Squirrels. 

What is your favorite lunch meat?  Salami. 

AWesome! You can check out RJ's resources right here in the DYM Store

JG

POLL: The Ups and Downs of Youth Ministry Attendance

Posted by Josh Griffin

Right now we're getting hit pretty hard in attendance in our youth groups because of back-to-back homecomings. Our services are on Saturday nights and that is when all of the schools host their big events/dance so we're in the down season right after a huge back to school month. Made me think to ask in this week's poll about the ups anddowns of youth groups attendance. Vote now!

JG

You Groups, Apologetics and Young Atheists

Posted by Josh Griffin

CrossMap had a great post on young atheists and youth ministry that got me thinking this week - thought I would grab a clip of it here and send you there if you want to do the rest.

Taunton's findings are counter-intuitive. Much of what passes for youth ministry these days is driven by a morbid fear of boring our young charges. As a result, a lot of time is spent trying to devise ways to entertain them. The rest of the time is spent worrying about whether the Christian message will turn kids off.
But as Taunton found, young people, like the not-so-young, respect people with conviction-provided they know what they're talking about. Taunton talks about his experiences with the late Christopher Hitchens, who, in their debates, refrained from attacking him. When asked why, Hitchens replied, "Because you believe it." I don't know what that says about Hitchens' other Christian debate partners, but it is a potent reminder that playing down the truth claims of the Christian faith doesn't work.
People don't believe those they don't respect. Here's something that one of the students told Larry Taunton; he said, "Christianity is something that if youreally believed it, it would change your life and you would want to change [the lives] of others. I haven't seen too much of that."
Folks, that's pretty sobering. This puts the ball in our court. Are we living lives that show our children that we actually believe what we say we believe? And here's another question-do we actually believe it? I have to say, as a parent I'm taking this very seriously.

JG

The 2 Killers Of Servant Leadership

Posted by Justin Knowles

This past weekend we had a leadership meeting with our college ministry leaders and we walked through what it looked like to be a servant leader by looking at the life of Jesus, the greatest leader of them all. We all know servant leadership has been modeled to us by Jesus. This is why He was so effective. As leaders of ministries and teams of volunteers, we need to be teaching servant leadership and what that means. I feel when we grasp this we will be able to break through whatever glass ceiling we are facing.

There are two things we need to watch out for in us and in our leaders that will kill any good that servant leadership brings:

Entitlement - the feeling or belief that you deserve to be given something (such as special privileges) will kill anything that breathes servant leadership. Weed this out of your leadership team and your own leadership style. It’s when the thoughts of, “I deserve this position” or “The church owes me this” is when we will find ourselves wondering what happened to our leadership.

Laziness - not liking to work hard or to be active. I have seen it all over Facebook. Lack of planning and last minute asks for help for a game, graphic, sermon whatever because we were too lazy to plan ahead and actually be prepared. Servant leadership is not lazy, it takes work but it’s most effective.

How do you combat these things? Jesus did both these things:

Lead with Humility- the quality or condition of being humble; modest opinion or estimate of one's own importance, or rank. Jesus was the master of this. We need to learn how to master this as well. The opposite of entitlement is humility.

Matthew 20:28 - For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve others and to give his life as a ransom for many.

Leading by Example – Again, Jesus was the master at his. We as leaders have the ability to demand but servant leaders are motivated by love and educate by example. We need lead out in doing what we want to see. The opposite of laziness is leading the way and doing what we want our leaders to be doing, not just telling them what to do.

John 13:14-15 - And since I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you ought to wash each other’s feet. I have given you an example to follow. Do as I have done to you.

Justin Knowles 

@justinknowles3

Topics: leadership, servant leadership, student ministry space

GUEST POST: Relevant Postmodern Communication with Teenagers

Posted by Josh Griffin

Postmodernism:  1) a reaction to the assumed certainty of scientific, or objective, efforts to explain reality.

In other words, instead of a “large umbrella” under which we all understand reality, postmodernism asserts the need for millions of individual “umbrellas” by which individuals understand reality.  It is a rejection of the meta-narrative.  

The sacrifice of the objective for the subjective, of the understanding of truth, implies that there is also a fracturing of how that truth is communicated.  Instead of students receiving information one way, they engage best by a variety, or a “gestalt”.  

Gestalt - a German word that is fun to say.  It also means “an organized whole that is perceived as more than the sum of its parts.”  In communication with teenagers, we must utilize a variety of mediums in which to communicate. 

Your Media Gestalt

Social Media
If you are older or are not tech-savvy, this can feel intimidating. Better yet, the multiplicity of social media options are overwhelming. However, these tools are vitally important. I encourage you to look at your town as a mission field.  How are you going to reach them?  What language do they speak? The minute you use these tools, you are embodying Marshall McLuhan’s tried and true maxim of mass communications: “the medium is the message”.  Your very presence in these realms of communication immediately validates you in the eyes of teenagers.  Don’t underestimate the power of relevancy!  This is the current language teenagers speak.
Texting
Finding a cheap texting service is a direct (and relevant) way to communicate with your desired audience.  If your church cannot afford a texting service, sharing your cell phone number (and vice versa) is just as good, and more personal. (editor's note - be sure to check out DYM Text, free texting for DYM members
Physical Mail
As Doug Fields has correctly reiterated over the years, never underestimate the power of a personal postcard, letter, or birthday card.  As electronic communication continues to expand, physical mail still retains the quality of “special”, mainly because teenagers today get so few real letters in the mail.  Interestingly, it isn’t considered arcane or archaic just yet.  Huzzah! Now let’s pray the Postal Service doesn’t go bankrupt.
T-shirts
The history of Christian t-shirts is a long and tragic one, a road fraught with “This Blood’s For You” and “The Lord’s Gym”.  If and when you make youth group t-shirts, ensure the design, cut of the shirt, quality of the material and color scheme are such that your youth will want to wear it other places than just a “Youth Sunday”. Better yet, have a teenager help design it! 
Email
Teenagers today check email more often than you would think.  We send a weekly email to parents and students each week.
Your Church Phone
Does a real person answer your church phone (better) as opposed to an automated machine?  Do you return phone calls or emails quickly?  Relevant communication goes both ways. Failure in this regard leads to weakened trust with those you are called to serve.

Our broad communications should have the goal of a teenager seeing, and that seeing leading to doing, and that doing to understanding.  More than ever, our mission field requires us to communicate in a broad and yet focused way, all with the goal of leading them to active discipleship.

What do you think?  What communication tools have you used to good success?  

Clark Chilton is a Student Ministries Pastor in Clemmons, NC.

GUEST POST: My 1st Crisis in Youth Ministry

Posted by Josh Griffin

This weekend I experienced my first major crisis as a youth pastor. It was about 4pm on Friday afternoon, and I was at McDonald’s with a student. That’s when I got the phone call. The voice at the other end was shaky, and eventually went on to tell me one of our seniors had been in a very serious accident. As I drove up to the hospital a million thoughts were racing through my mind. What if he doesn’t make it? What do I tell his parents? What do I say to his sixth grade brother? What if I can’t keep it together? As my mind was racing, all I could say was, “God please be with me.” Walking into the hospital to meet parents who are upset, and fearing for their child’s life is never an easy circumstance. There were some things that I have learned throughout this process that will be staples for me in times of crisis…here are a few.

  1. God is in control. We can be mad, angry, sad, and speechless about the present situation, but we must always rest in the fact that God is in control. Hold on to the idea that God can use tough circumstances to bring Him glory, no matter how bad that situation looks (Genesis 50:20).
  2. Be there. Never underestimate the power of presence. This particular youth’s parents do not attend church, however they were so glad to be surrounded by their student’s youth pastor and small group leaders.
  3. Pray hard. When I arrived at the hospital, one of the very first things the mother said was, “Please pray.” This struck me because these people do not attend a church, or seem to have any interest in Christianity, however she definitely saw the power of prayer that day. About 5 or 6 of us from church showed up and began praying for our student. It was a powerful and emotional time of prayer.
  4. Help out with the family tasks. When a family is in a crisis, they don’t think about daily tasks. Go buy their family dinner for that night. Find out if you can set up a person to cook food for them for the rest of the week. Get a group of students together to take care of their yard work. Pick up their children from school. Whatever you do, help the family out with things that may not be on their radar, but need to be taken care of.
  5. Silence is OK. It’s not up to you to entertain the hurting family. I found myself wanting to fill the silence in the waiting room with conversation. This desire to fill the silence led me into meaningless conversation. I learned very quickly that in crazy times, silence can be best.
  6. Use this time as a witnessing opportunity. We have been reaching out to this student’s family. We brought our senior pastor up to the hospital, and he got to meet the family, and let them know how much we have been praying for them. That is one of many things we have done. Some things you can do are, invite the family to church, or have them over to your house. Don’t let this just be a circumstance, but use this as an opportunity for God to work on people’s hearts.

Those are some things I learned this weekend. What else would you add to this list?

Alex Wierda is the Youth Pastor at Central Christian Church.

Wisdumb Sermon Bumper Video

Posted by Josh Griffin

Here's a simple and fun sermon bumper video our guys made for the Wisdum series. The whole stage/look has a cabin/outdoorsy vibe to it. So far so good!

JG

Show them health, not perfection

Posted by Jen Bradbury

Recently, my high school teens and I discussed God's gender.

During this discussion, small groups made a list of God's characteristics and classified them as masculine, feminine, or gender neutral. As we did this, my husband and I, who were leading separate small groups, both found ourselves explaining our classifications using examples from our marriage. 

Afterward, my husband commented how surprised he was by what teens had noticed about our relationship with one another.

For example, one student commented on my tendency to nag my husband over stuff related to our darling cat.

Now, I like to think that what teens notice about my marriage is how awesome it is; How it's based on mutuality, a relationship in which we both willingly serve one another out of love and respect; How we encourage, challenge, and affirm one another; And how we are the best of friends.

And don't get me wrong. Maybe youth do notice those things.

But during this recent conversation, it became crystal clear to both my husband and I that teens also notice other – much less flattering – things about our marriage as well.

At first, I felt a bit of shame regarding this.

After all, many of my teens come from broken homes.

Knowing this, I desperately want to model healthy marriage to them. I want teens to see and understand that not all marriages end in disaster.

And that's when I realized: That's precisely why it's good that youth see not just the beautiful parts of my marriage, but the less flattering ones as well.

After all, what I want to model to youth is a healthy marriage; Not a perfect one.

Because let's face it. As anyone who's been married longer than about 24 hours knows, no marriage is perfect.

Marriages are filled with both beautiful moments as well as – let's just say – less than beautiful moments like those when I nag my husband or when he lashes out at me in frustration.

Healthy marriages aren't conflict free. Instead, in healthy marriages, both parties are committed to working through conflict because they know that even though doing so is sometimes painful, it's well worth it.

Maybe that is actually the part of marriage that teens – especially those who come from broken homes - most need to see.

Maybe what teens need to see isn't another couple pretending to have it all together, but instead, a real-life couple who occasionally fights but then works together to resolve the conflict.

Maybe if teens saw us model that they'd begin to understand that conflict doesn't always mean a lack of love; That it doesn't always result in divorce.

So friends, may we have the courage to let our teens see not perfect marriages – but real, messy authentic ones rooted in the love of Christ. 

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Josh is the High School Pastor at Saddleback Church in Lake Forest, CA. He’s the co- founder of DYM and is the father of 4 who speaks a little, writes a little, Twitters a bit, and blogs a lot.

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