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19 Jan 2021

Dont’ Go Back to Normal: Do Something Digital

By |2021-01-18T13:30:16-08:00January 19th, 2021|Leadership|0 Comments

This is part three of a series based on New being potentially better than Normal. You can find the other parts here and here. 

Look. 2020 was a wreck. We were forced to do some things that weren’t normal. But the new might be better. And that is especially true in the digital landscape as well. 

I’m not sure what digital stuff you tried or did during any lockdown you had to face. Maybe you shifted to phone calls. Maybe you prioritized handwritten notes. Maybe you stuck with Instagram. Maybe you went for the full boat and started streaming.  

Regardless, the notion that digital is impossible or unattainable went out the window when we were left with fewer ways to connect. The idea that we CAN’T do digital because it just seems like a hassle became less of an excuse when it was the best way to inspire students. 

All I’m saying is, we found that we could do SOMETHING on a digital platform and it could work and it can be powerful if you just do one thing digital. Here are two reasons and one simple list of solutions to doing something digital: 

  1. They are already there. Even in the most rural areas, students are engaged in some way on a digital platform. Maybe it isn’t TikTok, Snapchat, or Facebook. But it’s probably Instagram, Twitter, or YouTube. And at the very least it’s texting and messaging.

It’s how they listen to music, it’s how they discover what’s going on, and it’s how they form their way of thinking. Why would you not want to at least inject SOMETHING into the space that they occupy? 

The statistics are overwhelming and reveals a very real opportunity to be where they already are. 

  1. Digital connection is a self-selected relationship. The people they follow, the accounts they turn notifications on for, the groups they align with are self-selected. Sure, there’s the random promoted posts that show up for everyone, but by and large, they have chosen to engage the accounts they are connected to.

If you are putting something out that inspires them, encourages them, or reminds them of the hope they have in Christ, it is one more way to inject light into darkness… and they choose to connect with it.  

  1. Doing something isn’t as hard as we make it out to be. Nobody has enough time to do everything they want right now. I come to this realization almost every week. But we can get something out there and it only takes a few minutes and you don’t even have to be super focused on it.

Depending on what platform you are using, scheduling apps and systems allow you to load up an automatic calendar and have it auto-post for you. And some of these are built right into the platforms themselves. 

So how do you do this? I’m so glad you asked. Here are a few simple solutions. 

  1. Buy a Social Media Pack or Texting Pack from DYM. I’m honestly not trying to sell you on anything. I use this stuff and it makes things so much easier. One of the most time-consuming parts of digital is producing high-quality stuff. DYM makes it easy for you.

I’m loading this Social Media Plan for January into my Instagram and Facebook feeds. They will automatically post and insert something into a platform that my students are on daily. You can even load devotionals into them like this one on the book of Ephesians. 

This year, we have a couple students selecting scriptures that we are texting out daily at 7am via Remind. The students receiving these signed up for the text messages and get a scripture reminder each day. We have also used this texting list and all we did was buy it, load it up, and then go play golf! 

There are seriously so many of these resources available on DYM and you should see if one fits your needs here. 

  1. Take an Hour and schedule a month of posts/texts. These days, if you have a business profile set up on IG or Facebook, you can use their “Business Suite” platform to schedule across both platforms. We use REMIND for texting students and they allow you to schedule as well. 

I run the social media for our church as a whole as well so I carve out an hour on Thursdays to load the next couple of week’s worth of posts. However, sometimes I have been known to be watching football and scheduling posts.  

You can also find a volunteer to help you. These don’t have to be super complicated or intricate. Often the simplest things are the most powerful.  

  1. Just be yourself. There is a stigma around social media and digital to be the absolute best of everyone ever that has ever produced something online and if you can’t be that, you might as well not try. The truth couldn’t be further from that. 

If you are a high production church group, then you probably should have elements of your digital platform that takes that experience online. But if you are one person staff and the kids love hanging out with you just because you love to wear flip flops and drive bright green mustangs from 1995, then let your digital presence be the same! 

I used to do this thing on my IG story where I would say “UPDATE!” at the beginning of each story. It was nothing more than me being me and trying to make insignificant things seem more significant. It caught on and people started messaging me wanting more “UPDATES!” 

You don’t have to do everything. You don’t have to do what everyone else is doing. But doing something puts you into their world.  

So, I’m curious. What have you done digitally that you weren’t doing before? 

Geoff Cocanower is a husband, a son, and the Associate Pastor of Student Ministries at Hope Missionary Church in Bluffton, IN where he leads the team of adults who minister to high school students as well as young adults. In addition to contributing to the DYM blog, Geoff co-hosts a podcast focused on the issues, questions, and blessings of leaders who aren’t in the driver seat of the organization called The Backseat Leadership Podcast. An interesting fact about Geoff is that he is a high school football and volleyball referee in his spare time and is a legacy member and loves all things DYM. You can find Geoff online here!

15 Jan 2021

Questions To Ask Yourself About Your Ministry Entering Into The New Year

By |2021-05-18T14:14:13-07:00January 15th, 2021|Leadership|0 Comments

New year, new me right?

With the new year comes new things in order to try and get better in how we look, how we feel, how we operate and more. Same thing when it comes to ministry. I don’t know about you, but we take a 3-week break for Christmas and during that break there usually is a bunch of questions that run through my head when it comes to the ministries I run and how I as leader lead. I always want to get better. I think when I get better as a leader the people and ministry around me only can get better.

So I thought I would write down a bunch of questions I have been wrestling with and journaling through as we kick off this new year. Maybe these are things you already think through and maybe some of these things you AND your leaders need to think through to spark some good conversations as we enter into 2021.

In no particular order (welcome to the randomness of my mind):

  • What is something this year that needs to go in your ministry?
  • What is something that needs to start in your ministry?
  • Do your leaders know what a win is for them in your ministry?
  • What do you need to do in order to have your students understand the vision of your ministry and ACTUALLY act on it?
  • When it comes to your students inviting friends, is your service worth being invited to?
  • What is one habit you NEED to add in order for you to be more effective?
  • What is one habit you NEED to give up to be more effective?
  • If you have family, what are you going to do to actually “be home” when you are home?
  • What exactly do you need to do to pour into more leaders?
  • Do you have practical steps for your students to grow in their faith? What are they? How can you measure it?
  • What do I need to do in order to have online ministry be more prominent in my ministry?
  • What can I give away to a leader or two to free me up to do only what I can do as the leader of the ministry?
  • Who do you need to ask out to lunch once a month because they are more seasoned than you so you can ask questions?
  • How do you know if your curriculum is being effective for your group of students?
  • How can you make sure you communicate better this year?
  • How can you be more organized and be better in time management this year?
  • Who needs to not be a part of your ministry in this season?
  • Who do we need to recruit to jump on our team this year?
  • How are my processes? Is it easy to join a group? Jump in to serve? How well do we follow up?
  • Do our leaders know how to walk someone through excepting Jesus on their own?

I am sure there is more but these are the big ones that have plagued my mind over the last few weeks as we head into 2021. I know that if I were to sit down and think through a lot of these, I can easily make some better decisions this year and be more effective. My guess if you were to go through with you and your leaders, you would too.

 

Justin

 


 

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14 Jan 2021

YM 2021: It’s time to Innovate!

By |2021-05-18T14:13:54-07:00January 14th, 2021|Leadership|0 Comments

So, I am no good at predicting the future. If we didn’t all know that in 2020, we certainly know it now. What I do know is that in 2021 youth ministry needs to innovate…and fast. And it needs to be planning for innovation not DURING Covid, but post-Covid. We need to innovate now for the future! We need to do it before the temptation to return to what was expected returns. Now is the time to re-think and dream. Youth ministry has needed to innovate for 50 years. While I can’t predict the future, innovation in youth ministry is something that I know something about!

So, here is the list of keys for innovation for 2021 and beyond!

  1. Question Everything- If you aren’t good at asking tough questions about your theology and your ministry now is the time to start. In faith and in innovation questions should WAY outnumber answers. All innovation begins with questions and more questions. “Why do we do it this way?” “What if we tried that?” “How did that experiment go?” “What did we learn just now?” “How do we do it better/more like Jesus?” Question everything in 2021!
  2. Seek Understanding- If you don’t know your students and your city you won’t know what direction your ministry should go. What do local leaders say students struggle with? What is your students’ world/home/school actually like? Good missionaries learn about the culture around them and good church innovators do too. Do you really know your town? Why are you certain of that?
  3. Observe Details- Good innovators pay attention to how their people use their stuff. What parts of your ministry do students deeply enjoy? Why do they like it? Could you do more of that? What do they love out in the community and could that be a new kind of ministry?
  4. Experiment, Evaluate, Repeat- This is the season to emerge and try something new! Innovators experiment. But, they don’t always believe the mantra that more experiments are better. The best innovators say that isn’t true. Lots of experiments are only good if there are few enough for you to evaluate each one of them. Put together a team that supports each experiment then experiment, evaluate, and repeat. Over and over. Sometimes one experiment combines with another to produce something truly great!
  5. Risk Something- I know many of us are vulnerable. We don’t get paid that well. We have families. We may not have cooperative staffs, heads of staff, or healthy church culture. But, if you are able to, take a risk! You cannot innovate without risk. Jesus risked in coming into the world and people are only willing to follow those who are willing to risk first.
  6. Cross-Pollinate- The best innovators read outside their jobs, they go to different conferences, and they have coffee with people outside their area. What if you went to an education conference? What if you had coffee with somebody from juvenile probation? What if you joined a local non-profit circle to learn their best practices? The church is way too isolated not just in terms of who we minister to, but who we learn FROM. Most of us aren’t experts at anything if we are honest. Let’s go learn from the best. The best ideas come when innovators go outside their ministries.
  7. Fail Shamelessly- Jesus’ earthly ministry only made it 3 years, he didn’t make it far from home, and his 12 best buddies never understood him. From the outside Jesus’ ministry might have looked like a failure. The Lord loves you and nothing can change that. Failure and mistakes are just lessons learned along the way. And sometimes one failure becomes the key ingredient to a later experiment! But, don’t fail alone. Get the support of your leadership. Make sure you are failing in a group. No mistake can diminish God’s love for you or for your team. So give yourself some grace. Do another new thing. Do it better next time and move forward!

The famous missionary William Carey once said, “Attempt great things for God, expect great things from God.” The Kingdom of God is worth it and so are students! Let’s innovate YM in 2021!

Image may contain: 2 people, including Matt Overton, people smiling, sky, ocean, outdoor, nature, water and closeupMatt Overton (right) is a youth pastor from Washington State that has been doing Youth Ministry for 20 years. He is the founder of www.youthministryinnovators.com and The Columbia Future Forge. The Forge is an award winning organization that combines youth ministry with mentorships, job skills, life skills, and social enterprise. He is an author, speaker, innovator, and occasionally consults with churches and organizations trying to innovate in youth ministry.

 

 

 

 

 


 

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4 Jan 2021

2021 Leadership PTSD

By |2021-05-18T14:12:45-07:00January 4th, 2021|Leadership|0 Comments

I don’t know about you, but this last year have given me a little twitch in my eye.

The amount of times we had to switch, rethink, redo, cancel, adjust, or create something brand new out of nothing has left me just tired tired going into the new year. I feel like many are like me. When thinking about heading into leading our ministries into 2021, there is a little PTSD thinking that this new year is going to be like this last year.

And if you are honest with yourself, you are anxious. I know I am.

A few weeks ago, I accepted a position at the church to be the Director of Kids & Youth across all our campuses. So I am taking the baggage of this year and going into this new year leading a few extra teams more than I had last year. I already struggle with anxiety. Thinking through this new year and the uncertainty it could bring for ministry – on top of leading more teams – has got my mind churning like crazy.

So for you, what is the thing you are worried about going into this new year?

Better and more important question…

What are you doing to prepare your heart, mind, and soul for leading in 2021?

Like, what are you ACTUALLY doing, if anything, to make sure you are best set up as a leader to take on this new year?

Even though 2020 was nuts, I am still blown away by how God moved in spite of how unprepared we were to do youth ministry in the midst of a pandemic. Even though 2021 will be different, our world and how we do ministry moving forward will not and SHOULD NOT be the same.

As leaders it is our responsibility to take some of the things we have learned from this year and, even though it won’t be a repeat of 2020, prepare our minds as if it will be.

Why is that important?

  • This year forced us out of our comfort zones on how to do church services.
  • It forced us to focus on online ministry and that’s where youth have been for years.
  • It forced us to find better and more effective ways (and ways that are not so effective) of connecting to our youth.
  • It forced us to be more creative than we ever have been.
  • It it forced us to hold our ministry plans loosely.

All of those points are awesome things. So if we are thinking we can’t wait to “go back to normal,” we are dreaming. We would be doing a disservice to our churches and our students if we did not take the things we learned from the craziness of this last year into this new one.

I’m not a therapist, but here are a few things I am bringing into the new year in hopes of battling this 2021 leadership PTSD from last year:

  • Daily reading of Scripture – Jesus answer I know, but I can’t tell you enough how important this is. As of the day I’m writing this post, I am 64 days straight in the Bible reading plan. That might seem like a lot, it might not. But for me I have always read it weekly but I would miss a day or two or week from time to time. This year more than any year of my 13 years in full-time ministry has showed me I need to depend on God more than my own skill set or passion. I tell you what, I have noticed a big difference in my leadership confidence and thinking because I am in the Word daily.
  • Getting rid of sideways energy – This year has forced me to look at what I spend my time doing. Sideways energy is things I would spend time on, meetings I would be in, projects I would be doing, conversations I would be having that do not help the main thing be the main thing. I have been ruthlessly getting rid of things that will not matter in the long run or affect the outcomes of how our ministry runs or disciples students. Get rid of it.
  • Blocked-out heads-up time – There is head-down time where you are in the trenches, figuring things out, reacting to situations, fixing problems, removing road blocks for others; and then there is head-up time where you are not working on immediate things, but you are thinking about the long-term future of your ministry. Too many times we are so head-down all the time that when things happen and we need to adjust, we have not been up long enough to see where we need to go. I have scheduled intentional “heads-up” time where all I do in those blocks is dream and think through only things coming months or years from now. It allows us to “see into the future” a bit and hopefully be prepped for adjustments because we already know where we should be going long term.
  • Delegating more than ever – This last year forced me not to be a control freak. Why? Because there was so much to do I would have literally died if I didn’t delegate to others. It’s the truth. The crazy awesome thing is that most of the stuff I gave away to our very capable team turned out better than if I were to have held onto it. I feel like one of the reasons leaders feel the heaviness of leadership is because they hold onto too much thinking because they are the leader, they need to do it. Stop it. Delegating and empowering others will only help you recover from the PTSD of last year and help take your ministry and leaders to the next level. It will help you do what only you as the leader can do.

I feel a heavy weight going into this year, mostly because I have experienced last year. The advantage we have for 2021 is we have done a lot of adjusting and maneuvering to help train us to be better leaders this year. I feel in doing some of these things I will have less anxiety knowing what I know and seeing how our team tackled this last year.

The question again is, what are you doing to prepare your heart, mind, and soul for leading in 2021?

 

@justinknowles3

 


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31 Dec 2020

Refuse to Go Back To Normal in 2021: Make Leaders the Lifeblood 

By |2021-05-18T14:12:28-07:00December 31st, 2020|Leadership|0 Comments


2020 was a crazy year. 2021 can be a different year and regardless of the pandemic, there are some ways that you can embrace NEW especially if NORMAL wasn’t working in the first place. 

This is post #2 in a series of posts. The initial and foundational offering is found here.  

If there was anything that the events and happenings of 2020 proved it is that volunteers and leaders are the lifeblood of any ministry that is going to effectively and efficiently engage students with hope, care, and discipleship.  

I grew up in a youth ministry that was primarily set up for the youth pastor to do the lion’s share of the discipleship. The “sponsors” were there to hang out, check kids in, serve snacks, and run sound. When it came to spiritual conversations or discipleship oriented conversations, those were mainly directed to the youth pastor.  

My guess is that many of our ministries have this flavor, to some degree. Maybe you have raised up a group of adult leaders who are in small groups with a few students. They are called to be relational, caregivers of your students for a certain amount of time. But when things get into the nitty-gritty, the conversation is often shifted to the youth pastor.  

If 2020 confirmed anything for me it was this: Leaders need to be empowered, equipped, and encouraged to be the lifeblood of ministry to students; not just the youth pastor.  

Programmatically, in March, we had to swiftly pivot to some sort of small group method if we were going to remain engaged with students over digital mediums. In May, when we were able to gather in small groups again, we found organizing small groups into host homes was going to be the only way we could continue to gather students together. 

We started the 2020-2021 school year gathering together for youth group, but by Thanksgiving had to make the shift bake to small group-focused gatherings. This model will continue in early 2021 for us.  

Now, I realize that I’m describing the setting in rural, northeast Indiana, however, the lesson rings loud and clear to me: Leaders must become the lifeblood of our ministry for us to be effective and engaging to a greater number of students more specifically.  

But, I’m not the first to say this. Paul said it to the church in Ephesus:  

So Christ himself gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the pastors and teachers, to equip his people for works of service, so that the body of Christ may be built up until we all reach unity in the faith and in the knowledge of the Son of God and become mature, attaining to the whole measure of the fullness of Christ.” – Ephesians 4:11-13 

We were already striving for leaders to be the force of our ministry. Paul said we should and honestly, we have a value that we are more effective when we are together. So this was already something that was part of our culture. 

But with the pivots we had to make in 2020, we had to make this all the more clear and tangible. Leaders needed to know that we were about this, not just think it was a cute leadership axiom. 

We focused our attention on making these three things clear: 

  1. We trust you. If we hadn’t made this clear before, we doubled and tripled down on it. We were making shifts and we needed those leaders to embrace the cultural aims and goals we had established and make it happen with their group. 

This meant we couldn’t be handling every detail about their group. Frankly, we were trying to “figure things out” just as much as they were. So there were things we had to release to their decision making.  

You avoid train wrecks in this process by vetting well when you “hire” them. But, you also need them to know that you are behind them. If you never communicate that, they will have reason to believe something other than that. 

  1. We support you. We always were working to support our adult volunteers, but we needed to make sure they knew that. We found this to be most effective in the frequency and the regularity of how we communicated to our leaders. Get info to them as soon as possible and with as much clarity as possible.

Yes, there are times that we have had to re-communicate or re-adjust our plans. But by keeping them in the loop as much as possible, they could deal with adjustments and shifts because they were informed in the first place.  

This isn’t the time to hedge your bets so that you only have to communicate once. Early and often gives them what they need to be the best leaders they signed up to be.  

  1. Tell us how to help you. The feedback loop became incredibly important for us. If what we were doing wasn’t actually setting them up for success, then we needed to change things. 

We began recording a video piece that included announcements, some “fun,” and a message. We had told the leaders, in the beginning, to expect a 35-45 minute video. It didn’t take long for us to realize that this was a lot of work. However, we didn’t make a shift in the content until we got feedback from leaders. 

Due to their feedback, we adjusted and produced a 20-minute video and added some other elements throughout the week to supplement the midweek content. This response has produced MORE feedback from them and has made our ministry better in the midst of the pandemic. 

Look, maybe you thought normal was awesome and super effective. But we found that when we had to shift from normal to new, our leaders were absolutely critical to that shift.  

What about you? What have you had to do to engage leaders more and empower them even more as you pivoted through 2020? 

Geoff Cocanower is a husband, a son, and the Associate Pastor of Student Ministries at Hope Missionary Church in Bluffton, IN where he leads the team of adults who minister to high school students as well as young adults. In addition to contributing to the DYM blog, Geoff co-hosts a podcast focused on the issues, questions, and blessings of leaders who aren’t in the driver seat of the organization called The Backseat Leadership Podcast. Interesting fact about Geoff is that he is a high school football and volleyball referee in his spare time and is a legacy member and loves all things DYM. You can find Geoff online here!

 


 

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28 Dec 2020

Why I Wouldn’t Change 2020 (From A Ministry Standpoint)

By |2021-05-18T14:12:09-07:00December 28th, 2020|Leadership|0 Comments

I know 2020 is not quite over yet, and I still feel like we are in the final stage of Jumangi awaiting the final boss, but from a ministry standpoint, I don’t think I have ever worked so hard in a year than this one. There were so many emotions and decisions and pivots and brainpower used in order to pull off youth ministry this year.

Anyone with me?

Even with all of that I would not take back or wish this year was different from a ministry standpoint (yes from a health and wellness of people point of view, of course). Even though so much happened the amount of innovation, creativity, forced engineering of online services and more, we are FAR better off to reach more students for Jesus than we were before 2020. And I bet, if you look at your ministry now, you could say the same thing too.

Here are some things that have come out of this year that has set us up for the better:

  • Online focus – Like everyone else, we had online as something that was on our list of things to get to but 2020 forced us to make it a priority. There was a time where we did 24 weeks straight of online only ministry. We were forced into it and had to come up with an online strategy in the matter of a few days. Everything went to online because we had to. Now moving forward, even wit meeting again, we are keeping online a main priority. Even to the point of hiring a full time youth lead to own it and make it happen.
  • Put our money where our mouth is with small groups – I have always said in trainings, “If we only could do one thing, it would be small groups” and while we were online only, small groups were really the only thing we could do. So we had to move and shake and rally our leaders to have them take ownership of their groups to continue to minister to their students… and they did in a big way. They did in such a way that most of our leaders have changed up how they minister because they have seen how much intentionality goes in youth ministry.
  • YouTube engagement – YouTube before al this was at 8 subscribers. We just passed 700 now which is awesome. You can see it HERE. But with going online not only would we put our service and messages on there, we came up with fun bits, challenging conversations and videos to be engaging for students. This is something even as we are back we have made a priory in our ministry as we move on.
  • Intentional training with leaders – It’s not like we were not intentional before, but we have become like… really intentional and have come up with some great systems in order to make sure they continue to do so in the future. We came up with EASY WINS and a FOLLOW UP SYSTEM for new students lead out by the leaders.
  • TikTok – I mean, I’m old, and I ran and got out TikTok started and thankfully someone way cooler and younger has taken it over. But we know this is where our youth are and we started it this year in the pandemic and we have it high on our list for engagement in 2021. You can check it out HERE.
  • A new studio – Out of all this, our entire church has rallied and invested into a full blown, legit studio for the church. It started as a makeshift one that was thrown up in 4 days from the awesome digital media team, but now it’s a real-life, professional studio that we just found out we will have for 2 full days a month to use as we wish to film all of our things. You can see an example of what we can do now moving forward HERE.
  • Team buy in – I can say that leading during this time has never been harder. But when you go through something like this last year as a team, I can say there is a team dynamic that I would not change for the world. We all worked really hard, sometimes got frustrated, but rallied together to create some great content I am super proud of. And I can say we all had fun doing it and we are better off as a team for it. And I would not want to change that at all.

Even though this year could have been the worst on a ministry level, if you were to look back, I am sure you will find some great things that have come out from this year that will only better set up your ministry for the better in the months and years to come.

What would those be for you?

@justinknowles3

 


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21 Dec 2020

2021 – Refuse to Go Back to Normal 

By |2021-05-18T14:11:50-07:00December 21st, 2020|Leadership|0 Comments

2021 marks 13 years in student ministry and, in so many ways, the last year has made me feel like I’m in year one all over again! There has been so much to learn and so much to adjust for, it has been exhilarating and exhausting all at the same time.  

2021 looks to be another year of adjustment as many will look to get back to the normal we had before 2020. The normal gatherings. The normal trips. The normal events. The norms we had when things were consistent and planned and we could expect what was coming in 30 days; the next 3 months; even the next 9 months of a school year.  

But if there is anything that I have learned or reflected on from 2020 it is this: perhaps the way we were doing things may have not been the best way to do those things. That until we are forced to consider a different way, we will most likely revert to the comfortable way. 

2020 taught us that while different might be more difficult to start, it may be more effective to reach your ultimate end goal. The question is did we learn from 2020 to set us up for a more fruitful, more effective, and more kingdom-focused 2021? 

I’m not sure what circles you run in or what conversations you have been having about student ministry in recent years, but I have been a part of so many discussions revealing new modes, new models, and new structures for doing student ministry. Ideas that break the mold of what has been considered “normal” and, at face value, seemed to be super challenging to shift into and establish as our normal. 

But 2020 released us to try stuff that has not been normal to us. 2020 forced us to consider what truly empowering and trusting volunteers truly means. 2020 caused us to leverage social media in new ways that we hadn’t attempted ever before. 2020 reminded us of the value and the essential nature of deep, authentic community in the lives of students. 

And 2020 did this by rattling our “normal” like a Boston Terrier trying to get out of their cage when you come home from work. Ok, that wasn’t the best illustration, but I thought the picture of a silverback gorilla breaking out of their enclosure might not be the best either. 

Regardless of what 2020 altered or forced into your student ministry, I hope that you learned from it. I hope that you gained perspective from it. And if you haven’t had time to learn from it, stop and reflect today! 

For me, there was one main theme of learning for me. There was one strand that kept permeating the surface and it’s quite simpleNormal isn’t worth going back to if New is better going forward. 

If normal wasn’t working the best, why would we go back to it if new has opened our eyes to something better? If normal was mainly catering to our comfort then why wouldn’t we stick with the new that more concretely creates opportunities for growth for students? 

 Trust me. 2020 is not the year that I will look back on and recall it as the banner year of ministry for me. But we did some things in 2020 that we had to do because of 2020 and it will make us better for 2021 and beyond.  

So, in order to avoid writing a blog post of epic length, I have broken things up into a few parts. Learnings and a few things we altered in three major areas of our ministry that I think has helped our student ministry be better.  

I don’t come from a huge church with a massive budget and multiple staff. So, for much of what I learned, it was a shift in my own personal approach to these things. They were shifts that had to be sustainable for me if I wasn’t going to burn out and find myself loathing the work that was placed before me. 

So, here’s what’s coming up: 

Part 2: Make Leaders the Lifeblood 

Part 3: Dig into something Digital 

Part 4: Capture the power of authentic Community 

These are just my findings. I would love to hear yours. What has 2020 taught you and what are you going to do differently in 2021 because of those learnings? 

Geoff Cocanower is a husband, a son, and the Associate Pastor of Student Ministries at Hope Missionary Church in Bluffton, IN where he leads the team of adults who minister to high school students as well as young adults. In addition to contributing to the DYM blog, Geoff co-hosts a podcast focused on the issues, questions, and blessings of leaders who aren’t in the driver seat of the organization called The Backseat Leadership Podcast. Interesting fact about Geoff is that he is a high school football and volleyball referee in his spare time and is a legacy member and loves all things DYM. You can find Geoff online here!


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18 Dec 2020

Youth Group Christmas Games – 3 Ways to Quickly Pivot a Youth Ministry Game That is Bombing on Stage

By |2021-05-28T16:13:44-07:00December 18th, 2020|Games, Leadership|4 Comments

We’ve all been there! The game just … isn’t working. Your students are bored, one is actually taking a nap and some others are buried in their phones. That fun element you downloaded from the internet or found free on some app is dying in a pile. You are now mid-game and it’s… welcome to boring-town. Snoozefest 2021. ZZZZZZZZ. What do you do?

I’ve run games for 25 years in my youth ministry and have bombed in front of students more times than I care to admit. There’s nothing worse! OK, there are a TON of worse things – but at that moment it’s super rough. Not as bad as that new kid Michael and one of your key student leaders in the back row displaying way too much PDA at church. Wait, I think I’m getting a bit off track. I do that from time to time around the end of the year as I reflect on all that God has done and some of the occasional knuckleheads He has brought into our youth ministry this year.

So how do you save a game? How do you pivot a game? How do I fix this mess I’m in!? Help!! Here are a few options when things just aren’t going as planned in your program:

Fire up your backup youth group Christmas game

A backup game? Are you kidding me? I’m not some sort of game genie and can just summon a new element of fun! And it’s true … you’re not … yet. Now that you have this idea firmly planted in your head you need to do a quick run-through Josh’s Stocking Stuffers games and pick out some perfect backups for your group in case something goes less than stellar. May I recommend Grandma Got Run Over By a _______________? or First to Ten: Christmas Edition – both are fireproof and always a sure-fire hit. Have a backup game and you’ll always bail like a pro. Click the links to download them right now!

 

Punt it quickly and do one of your “go-to” games

A game pro will always have a simple crowd game ready to go in their back pocket when something goes sideways. Certain tried and true games are virtually guaranteed to crush, like the Bob Ross Christmas Party or Christmas Movie Emoji Challenge but sometimes stuff isn’t a hit in your group. We get it, not everything you try is going to land – so always have these ready to rock:

  • Sit Down If – Everyone stands, and you call out features or facts of their life and they sit if it’s true about them. The last one standing wins. Bonus: Reverse a few to stand back up for a fun twist to bring students back in.
  • Bring Me – You simply call out an item and someone has to bring it to the front. The first one there wins a prize or a point. Things can get crazy when you ask for a shoelace or a contact lens.
  • Rock Paper Scissors – You know this one! Have the whole room play it and if you tie you’re both out. Whittling everyone down to one final winner from the crowd makes it easy and fun.
  • Impossible Shot – Every week I have this ready! A simple Nerf bow and arrow and a target in the back of the room. Adds a burst of energy and engagement every time!

Win them back by raising the stakes

If they’re not giving you great attention or it’s bombing maybe the prize isn’t worth playing for? It doesn’t have to be super expensive (I love visiting the Dollar store to make up games or find prize ideas). Adlib a little bump in the value of the prize (adding $5 to the Starbucks Holiday Drink gift card) or blow them away (the winner goes to Winter Retreat for FREE, also, may I suggest a theme: Superspreading the Gospel Virus). Upping the stakes of the game, by eliminating people could also be a fun way to win the crowd back. 5 cans of Pringles, 10 avocadoes, a cat hot pad. The ideas there are endless. Ha!

I hope this helps you save some face when something goes wrong with your game. This holiday season post-pandemic-election-Zoomed-out-virtual learning-no-sports your students need fun so I hope you’ll lay it on thick! Oh, and definitely don’t use that Winter Retreat theme, it’s a terrible idea.

 

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JG

 


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18 Dec 2020

Growing Into A Youth Minister

By |2021-05-18T14:15:27-07:00December 18th, 2020|Leadership, Youth Pastor Life|0 Comments

I started doing Youth Ministry as an 18-year-old punk.  I didn’t know what I was doing then (most of the time that is true now too) and that was nearly 40 years ago.

I still claim to be “26” to my students.

I remember adults telling me I didn’t understand because “you aren’t married”, then it was, “you don’t have kids” then “you don’t have teens” and then “your kids are too old.”

It is always something!

The bottom line is, I won’t ever be “enough” but the good news is: I don’t have to be enough, HE IS! 

I do think I am a better youth guy than I was years ago.

Because I am an “old” youth guy, I feel like I can understand things a lot better. Here are some lessons I’ve learned along the way:

  • I quit trying to be cool and just be myself. Besides cool to one teen is weird to another.
  • I understand that Discipleship is a long-term thing and not a “month-long class.”
  • I trust more in my staff and volunteers. I pour into them so they can then, in turn, minister to so many more than I can.
  • I read my Bible like it matters to my everyday life. That may sound silly but I do remember reading for what I could teach instead of what I could learn.
  • I try to celebrate the small wins and not just wait for the bigger ones. When one single teen comes to know Jesus, I am overwhelmed by His love.
  • I love my wife and kids more. That doesn’t mean I neglect my calling or even my job, but I thank God daily for my family, (even when they make me mad).
  • I call out my students and expect them to respect the Church and staff.
  • I am always trying to learn more about teenagers. I think I know more now than I did when I was starting, but still need to learn every minute because things change rapidly.
  • I am thankful to God that He allows me to serve Him as a servant of teenagers and I don’t look for the next “best” job or thing. It is my honor to serve Him in this way.  (That might be why I am celebrating 30 years at this church in a few months.)

So don’t fall into the trap of thinking that you get too old for youth ministry.  You might get tired but don’t give up. He sustains us.  Why would you want to take a demotion to another church staff position anyway?

Image may contain: 2 people, including Grant T. Byrd, people smilingGrant Byrd is a Seasoned (nice word for old) Youth Pastor of 39 years. He’s still in the trenches and still loving It.

 

 

 


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16 Dec 2020

The Dangers of Putting Students in Charge

By |2021-05-18T14:15:46-07:00December 16th, 2020|Leadership|0 Comments

 

Last Sunday I had the need to take care of something very important before our program got started.

Namely, I had to go to the bathroom.

It’s no big deal, I thought. I was just going to excuse myself for a moment and then come back and ask my student tech team to get the countdown ready. Then I would make sure that the girl who was doing announcements for me was ready to go and check to make sure my game person had everything they needed.

After I came back for my very quick trip to the restroom, including a responsible twenty second hand wash, I discovered an unexpected scene.

The countdown video had already played and the student who was supposed to be doing announcements was doing just that.

In fact, she made a big deal out of me coming back into the room and said “And don’t worry everybody, Ronald is still here!”

I got called out for being late to my own ministry! From the STAGE!

This is what’s going to happen if you put students in charge.

A while ago I started giving away on-stage responsibility to students. We already have a middle school band and a middle school tech team in the booth, but I was reluctant to give away the job of announcements and game leader. Aside from teaching, those are some of my favorite times up on the stage.

But I knew it was important to hand that over to students, so I begin the process of training them to take it over.

Lo and behold, when you give students responsibilities and tell them they’re in charge, they’re going to start acting like they’re in charge.

Here are some of the lessons I’ve learned along the way:

Set wide river banks

It’s great to have rules and roles when you hand over things to students. When you want them to perform a certain task, it’s definitely better to say wide river banks so that they can operate with some creative license and freedom.

I give them a one-page job description for their role. Here’s a few of them:

Middle School Game Leader

Middle School Welcome Time

It’s going to feel uncomfortable, but let students try to figure things out. Give them responsibility and let them know what you expect. That said…

Offer lots of advice

Make sure you offer feedback! Tell a student what they are doing well and offer them advice on how they can improve. If you’ve got a student doing announcements who is reading them verbatim, offer them a chance to practice giving the announcements off the cuff with you afterward.

If you have a student playing games, give them a chance to figure out how they can make it more exciting for the students who are playing. And whenever you see some killer advice on how to play games with your students, pass it on to your team! Like these two I shared with my students:

3 Ways to Quickly Pivot a Youth Ministry Game That is Bombing on Stage

5 Tips For Hosting Next-Level Camp Games

Let them be students

They are going to be silly. And Mesa. And might even swear on stage. I hope that last time doesn’t happen, but it might. Let your students be students.

When you give away responsibility, they’re going to run with it. Let them fail forward and be ridiculous in the process.

I have found there’s a whole lot of joy in letting students be themselves as they work on the roles they have been assigned.

Give more away

Once you’ve given away some responsibility, keep doing it! I didn’t wanna give away stage time, but I challenge myself to intentionally let students do a part of the job that I love.

There is more that I can give to them. And I hope to soon!

It helps students be the church and helps us equip the saints. It’s definitely something we should do more often.

Be careful though. If you put students in charge, there’s a good chance you’ll get called out for being late from the stage.

 


 

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