Parents naturally want their children not to fail. They want their kids not to suffer the embarrassment and insecurity that come with failure, and they want their children to enjoy the benefits of success. Parents want to enjoy their children’s successes too. In an effort to reap these benefits and to minimize failures, many parents attempt to short-circuit the natural consequences of failure and they do so in a number of ways. One way is to lavish their children with praise even for mediocre performance. Another way is to lower the expectations on their children.
Yet another way is to “overparent” children. Jessica Lahey at The Atlantic cited a recent study which asked parenting professionals whether “they had witnessed examples of overparenting.” The most distressing overparenting were parents who took “their child’s perception as truth, regardless of the facts” and who are “quick to believe their child over the adult and deny the possibility that their child was at fault or would even do something of that nature.” These parents exhibit “high responsiveness and low demandingness.” They are the parents who “rush to school at the whim of a phone call from their child to deliver items such as forgotten lunches, forgotten assignments,