Every couple needs support!
Marriages who have taken steps to identify intentional support systems have a greater chance of marriage success!
Here are five support systems that may help keep your marriage strong:
1. Marriage mentors: Couples who are deeper into marriage and in different life-stages can offer unique perspective, advice and hope. To tap into their “been there—done that” experience adds a huge benefit. If granted permission, they can also speak to the “blind-spots” they perceive and guide you to safer places in your marriage.
2. Marriage “peers”: Don’t overlook the power found within other couples who share a similar life stage as you. They can provide neutral perspective from a peer point of view. Great conversations can be started with something as simple as, “Are you guys experiencing this[fill-in-the-blank] in your marriage?
3. Mentor younger couples: By building relationships with newlyweds or younger couples you will be forced to think thru some life-issues and unique perspectives that will cause you to reflect on and deepen your own marriage.
4. Learn together: Growth requires learning and thankfully there are many ways that couples can continue the growth process. Local seminars, DVD’s, books, etc… Cathy and I recently revisited The Five Love Languages and even though we read it years ago, we loved the new discussion it generated.
5. Counseling check-up: Counseling doesn’t equate to “being in trouble.” I know many couples who have occasional marital check-ups by checking in with their counselor once a year. Couples can gain tremendous benefit from professional marriage counseling.
Like all helpful actions, they need to be pursued and initiated. Don’t wait for them to come to you. Make them happen.
Question: What support system do you currently have in your marriage to keep “health” within reach? Share your comments here.