///The Program is Secondary to Relational Ministry

The Program is Secondary to Relational Ministry


We had a ROUGH night at youth group the other night. Everything that could go wrong did!

  • Microphone feedback so bad your ears were damaged
  • That new song failed miserably
  • The game was awesome but super long
  • The band wasn’t great even on the songs they did know
  • The video started late after 10 seconds of awkward silence
  • Then no audio for the start of the video after that
  • At one point the mics didn’t work so we resorted to projecting our voices into the room
  • Slides went up at the wrong time
  • The student running the camera was either high or falling asleep 1/2 the service
  • Misspellings on the words for the worship song
  • More misspellings on the next song, too


It was just one of those nights! If you were judging the service based on program you would say it was an utter failure. But we don’t judge our youth ministry based solely on our programs. They ARE important – flow, quality and tone certainly all matter. We don’t set out to design a game that bombs or give a talk that is boring – but what matters most is relationships. Relational ministry is the central reason we even have a program – to create an environment where spiritually mature, loving adults intersect with students at all different places in their spiritual journey. SO from this relational standpoint, the night was a total win. Students connected, laughed, talked, were challenged, got counsel. Total win … even when the program stinks.


By |2016-10-13T13:54:05+00:00September 7th, 2014|Uncategorized|0 Comments

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Josh Griffin is one of the leading voices in youth ministry with over 20 years experience in the trenches, most recently as the High School Pastor at Saddleback Church. He's the co-founder of DownloadYouthMinistry.com and been in 300+ episodes of the DYM Podcast with Doug Fields. He's created more than 50 youth ministry resources and authored several books including 99 Thoughts for Small Group Leaders. Josh and his wife Angela have 4 kids, which now includes 2 teenagers of their own! Contact Josh | Speaking Requests

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