///How To Help Hurting Parents

How To Help Hurting Parents

 

We prepare ourselves to work with hurting teens. We read up on strategies and resources. We surround ourselves with people who are counselors, psychologists and crisis professionals. But, what happens when it’s a hurting parent in your ministry?

Just like teenagers parents are hurting because life is messy. They might be hurting because:

  • Their teenager is hurting.
  • They are going through a divorce or death.
  • They do not know how to communicate with their teenager.
  • They are scared that they are failing as a parent.

No matter the struggle parents need pastoral care. As a youth minister you need to be there for the parent because it affects the teens. If parents are hurting then the teenager will know and it could cause worry, and frustration. A healthy youth ministry is there to serve both parents and teenagers.

To help a hurting parent you need to make sure you:

HEAR THEM OUT

When a parent comes to you with a wave of an emotion it’s easy to take it personally. Put down the defenses and listen to them. Hurting parents like hurting teenagers want to be heard out. They want to know that they are not alone.

Affirm their feelings and acknowledge their situation. If you are speaking over the phone give them an opportunity to meet face to face. This will build trust in the situation.

CONNECT THEM TO COMMUNITY

Many times parents will come to you because of your expertise with teenagers. While you are probably capable of helping them out do not be afraid to delegate the situation. If their child is in a small group connect them with their leader. If they aren’t in a small group plug them into one. Surround them with support and love.

FOLLOW UP AND PROVIDE ACCOUNTABILITY

Parents like teens need to know someone is walking with them in the journey. While you should connect them with other parents or their child’s small group leader, it’s good for you to check-in as well. Again, it builds trust. It also communicates that your youth ministry is there for the entire family.

Parents are hurting because their kids are growing. When you walk with parents you equip them to engage their teenagers. Work with parents and help them grow the next generation of disciples.

How are you helping hurting parents?

By | 2016-10-13T13:53:56+00:00 September 7th, 2014|Uncategorized|0 Comments

About the Author:

Christopher Wesley is a writer and youth ministry coach. Chris Wesley has served in the Catholic church and youth ministry for over 12 years. He is married to Kate and has two awesome sons. He is also the author of Rebuilding Youth Ministry.

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